Kind of distraught MI has decided to abandon a romantic possibility without even a date - he listens to composers extensively before deciding he doesn't like them! What is the harm, what is the loss, in going on a date if it doesn't work out? At worst, you get a funny story - the same downside as when you listen to Bruch symphonies.
My girlfriend is 9 years older; a friend is dating a man 18 years older; my best friend married a partner 19 years older. Now, in those last cases, if they are still together at age 60/80, there will be practical challenges to face. But for now, it does not have a practical effect or detriment on their lives - except weird stares in public. Which most GMGers get anyway.
Maybe, John, you'll go out with her and find out she has a totally different worldview. Or maybe not. Only one way to find out. And in my experience, stuff like "you watched different movies as a kid" is a benefit - giving each other new experiences is even better than having shared memories. I'll always be grateful to my friend's 19-years-older husband for teaching us both about great wine and forcing us to watch Animaniacs reruns!
No reason to be distraught, my friend. I followed up with her about a possible date last week only to meet with the "I'm busy" response (I just happened to be off the same days as her last week). Anyway, we barely make eye contact now and I'm all the happier for it, because there's an apparent lack of chemistry (obviously). She said "yes" but then turns around and basically says "no." I really didn't want to play any more games with her, so I'm done. I'm actually hoping to meet an older woman (maybe 10 years older) that's not a gold digging harpy.
I'm not too worried about it, though, because if something happens and I meet someone, then that's great, if I don't, I don't. If a woman genuinely wants to go out with me, then I'm for that, but I'm not going to be caught playing mind games. Feelings are something I don't toy around with and I'm someone who believes people should keep their word. If you agree to do something, you better do it, and, if not, then you better have a good reason as to why you've backed out of it. Honestly, I'm enjoying being single for now and I'd be lying if I didn't say that I don't get lonely, because I do, but I'm just enjoying my own company for now. I've always been a loner it seems and sometimes it's really not by choice. I suppose I'm not the kind of person that likes to mettle in other people's lives and keeps to themselves. In person, I'm also rather private and introspective. I'm much more interested in hearing someone else's thoughts about a subject rather than to reveal my own opinion. I've always considered myself someone who's not of our era, but most people probably just find me strange.
Edit: I see that I've already revealed she had 'plans'. Ignore the mindless, completely rambling post above. ^^^