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Re: Dating or not dating.
« Reply #940 on: July 11, 2017, 11:25:59 AM »
Quite often when opening this thread there's a banner ad at the top the page which is for a dating site. And one of the phrases on it is "The woman will make the first move". Well, in real life the woman almost always makes the first move! You just need to learn how to recognise it. 8) Gain enough experience and from the outset you can frequently gauge when she's inviting your attention or has no interest in you at all. ;D
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« Reply #941 on: July 11, 2017, 03:18:35 PM »
Quite often when opening this thread there's a banner ad at the top the page which is for a dating site. And one of the phrases on it is "The woman will make the first move". Well, in real life the woman almost always makes the first move! You just need to learn how to recognise it. 8) Gain enough experience and from the outset you can frequently gauge when she's inviting your attention or has no interest in you at all. ;D
It is easy enough to recognise for me because it has always been straightforward and verbal............  :-\

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Re: Dating or not dating.
« Reply #942 on: July 14, 2017, 08:10:18 PM »
Ok, no Nik I'm not dating again yet buuuttt:


Really, really, really, really strange coincidence just happened:

Just went for a walk, got a coffee. When I was waiting for a coffee I saw a girl (holding hands with some dude) that I was chatting up on Tinder last? month or so (the one with a killer sense of humor who shares my self-deprecating personality). So, looks like she's taken then  :laugh:
But anyway, I awkwardly ended up feeling like I was stalking her for ten minutes because we where both walking in the same direction (no, they disappeared somewhere and I kept going where I was going, blah blah). But essentially that "Hey, I know her" light-switch moment, connecting vague memories etc was a bit of a shock  ???


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« Reply #943 on: July 15, 2017, 10:46:53 PM »
Nik, I had the same Pizza girl again  :o

 :-* :-* :-*
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« Reply #944 on: July 16, 2017, 02:07:43 AM »
It is easy enough to recognise for me because it has always been straightforward and verbal............  :-\

Good. That's the best way for it to be. :)

I'm referring more to the whining scenarios I hear about, like "I don't know if she likes me and if I should ask her out" and "I was sure she liked me so I asked her out but she rejected me". A lot of the time it's obvious when someone is interested or not, even before you speak with them. It's not a special skill or 'One Weird Trick!' It just takes the experience gained by being out and meeting people and interacting with them. But that takes effort and doesn't offer the instant and guaranteed reward delivered via posting on the echo chamber of Reddit about how unfair it all is.

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Re: Dating or not dating.
« Reply #945 on: July 16, 2017, 02:11:08 AM »
Nik, I had the same Pizza girl again  :o

 :-* :-* :-*

Cool. Was the pizza better this time?  :laugh:

Despite the fact she was at work and probably in a hurry, did she give you a bit of chat or anything?

Or did you grab her, pull her close and give her a shake while looking into her eyes (lit by the 'Schuftan process', of course) and say "Listen up, doll, I'm crazy about you, you hear? And you're too good looking to be involved in a caper like this. I know it, you know it, and your dispatcher knows it. Let me take you away from it all, far from this minimum wage racket of analogue mozzarella and one size fits all uniform pantaloons. But there's a problem, because I don't want the pizza to get cold, see? So maybe come back, let's say, in 15 minutes? Yeah, 15 minutes is all I need IYKWIM...;)"?

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« Reply #946 on: July 16, 2017, 02:35:54 AM »
Cool. Was the pizza better this time?  :laugh:

Despite the fact she was at work and probably in a hurry, did she give you a bit of chat or anything?

Or did you grab her, pull her close and give her a shake while looking into her eyes (lit by the 'Schuftan process', of course) and say "Listen up, doll, I'm crazy about you, you hear? And you're too good looking to be involved in a caper like this. I know it, you know it, and your dispatcher knows it. Let me take you away from it all, far from this minimum wage racket of analogue mozzarella and one size fits all uniform pantaloons. But there's a problem, because I don't want the pizza to get cold, see? So maybe come back, let's say, in 15 minutes? Yeah, 15 minutes is all I need IYKWIM...;)"?

Yep, Pizza was great. Yep she was in a hurry but we moved another step up, we both smiled and looked in eachothers eyes for about 5-7 seconds before she handed me my pizza, then she smiled again and said something like "see ya" (I think) before she walked back to the delivery car/I shut the door.

I spent the whole entire time eating that pizza, just thinking about her gorgeous eyes.

I would assume you too have had those moments right?  :laugh:


She is so stunning (and she works about 15 minutes from where I live!), also when I was eating the pizza my female flatmate that I also sort of have the hots for (not too seriously of course) came out and heated up popcorn and was friendly and all (well she is some one I live with, so expectedly)


So that was a bit of a smile-inducing dinner tonight  :D :D  ;)
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« Reply #947 on: July 16, 2017, 02:37:39 AM »
grab her, pull her close and give her a shake while looking into her eyes (lit by the 'Schuftan process', of course) and say "Listen up, doll, I'm crazy about you, you hear? And you're too good looking to be involved in a caper like this. I know it, you know it, and your dispatcher knows it. Let me take you away from it all, far from this minimum wage racket of analogue mozzarella and one size fits all uniform pantaloons. But there's a problem, because I don't want the pizza to get cold, see? So maybe come back, let's say, in 15 minutes? Yeah, 15 minutes is all I need IYKWIM...;)"?

Dude, can I steal that?  :P That'd be perfect  :-*
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« Reply #948 on: July 16, 2017, 02:43:20 AM »
"Look darling, I don't make much, you don't make much. I want you, you want me. I'm tired of getting pizzas alone and writing oboe concertos for myself, I need your inspiration. Come with me darling, into my arms. You, the pizza, the oboe, lets flee this dreadful debt together and start a new life full of wonder and mysterious circumstances. I may be here, I may not. We will keep moving country, we will run from the law. We will be 2018s answer to Bonnie and Clyde. Whatcha say and give this weirdo a chance?"


 :D  :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:  >:D  ;)
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« Reply #949 on: July 16, 2017, 04:09:13 AM »
Good. That's the best way for it to be. :)

I'm referring more to the whining scenarios I hear about, like "I don't know if she likes me and if I should ask her out" and "I was sure she liked me so I asked her out but she rejected me". A lot of the time it's obvious when someone is interested or not, even before you speak with them. It's not a special skill or 'One Weird Trick!' It just takes the experience gained by being out and meeting people and interacting with them. But that takes effort and doesn't offer the instant and guaranteed reward delivered via posting on the echo chamber of Reddit about how unfair it all is.

Well, a simple ask has been my approach too. It's kinda weird to read of people whining about rejections when they were sure they were fancied by the other party in question.

I do have a story from last year I might share concerning this if anyone is interested.  It was an odd month and I'm so glad nothing came from it.....

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« Reply #950 on: July 16, 2017, 07:42:46 AM »
Well, a simple ask has been my approach too. It's kinda weird to read of people whining about rejections when they were sure they were fancied by the other party in question.

Some people don't have the benefit of experience gained by going outside and talking with people and so the signs are useless to them. I think many of them are still governed by the types of thinking and social rules that were in place when they were in school, which was probably the last time they were forced to converse and associate with others.

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I do have a story from last year I might share concerning this if anyone is interested.  It was an odd month and I'm so glad nothing came from it.....

I'd be interested to hear it. And I'm sure others would too. :)

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« Reply #951 on: July 16, 2017, 07:54:06 AM »
"Look darling, I don't make much, you don't make much. I want you, you want me. I'm tired of getting pizzas alone and writing oboe concertos for myself, I need your inspiration. Come with me darling, into my arms. You, the pizza, the oboe, lets flee this dreadful debt together and start a new life full of wonder and mysterious circumstances. I may be here, I may not. We will keep moving country, we will run from the law. We will be 2018s answer to Bonnie and Clyde. Whatcha say and give this weirdo a chance?"


 :D  :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:  >:D  ;)

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Yeah, that's it.  ;D

"I looked out and low to the street and she was there waiting behind the wheel of her car, just like she promised, her kewpie features turned up to my window as she first flashed her headlights and then her eyes to signal me forward and down. I went to my mirror, looked at the timeline of my scarred and worn face as I straightened my tie and tilted my hat and tried to make myself go cross-eyed but failed. Damn.
Then I cautiously stepped out my room, quietly closing the door behind me and with a quick check for unwanted visitors/insurance salesman lurking in the shadows I took the stairs two at a time, but no more than that because I wanted to appear cool, relaxed, unhurried and in control, a man she could rely on. And so on reaching the ground floor landing I stood that way, framed that way in the doorway for a moment to (expose for the shadows and) present her a picture of repose she would never forget...but her dollface got only a dolly zoom as I stifled a scream and ran back up the stairs three at a time, because the night air had reminded me of a horrible truth, that I'd forgot to put any trousers on.
Maybe no one noticed? Maybe I'd get away with it? Maybe it was more acceptable in this part of town to wear boxer shorts which feature a caricature of a smiling Clara Schumann saying "Herein, my favourite trio to play with."

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Dating or not dating.
« Reply #952 on: July 17, 2017, 06:09:55 PM »
Ok forum, I'm not dating  :laugh: (I'm already married)

But anyway, I took my wife to the cinema and had a romantic dining out last night. Don't know why I'm sharing but I guess my wife and I are quite busy people so we don't get to do a lot together  :(

The last time we went "out" was about two months ago to a concert with Beethoven, Webern ( :D ) and Bartok, we both enjoyed it immensely.

It made me very happy finally getting to spend some quality time out rather than just seeing her before going to sleep like usual  >:(

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« Reply #953 on: July 18, 2017, 03:13:30 AM »
Ok forum, I'm not dating  :laugh: (I'm already married)

But anyway, I took my wife to the cinema and had a romantic dining out last night. Don't know why I'm sharing but I guess my wife and I are quite busy people so we don't get to do a lot together  :(

The last time we went "out" was about two months ago to a concert with Beethoven, Webern ( :D ) and Bartok, we both enjoyed it immensely.

It made me very happy finally getting to spend some quality time out rather than just seeing her before going to sleep like usual  >:(

It's cool that you got to spend such time with your wife.  8) Good stuff.
And because it was a date of sorts it certainly fits in with this thread. :)

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« Reply #954 on: July 18, 2017, 03:38:32 AM »
It's cool that you got to spend such time with your wife.  8) Good stuff.
And because it was a date of sorts it certainly fits in with this thread. :)

Tonight I'm on my own again, she has an overnight job (she works in healthcare)  :( but at least it brings in pay.

As I do, I've been chiseling at a rocking chair I've been redoing while I listen to this recent acquire:



I still have finishing to apply to the chair but it is looking ten times how it used to look.

Oh and more Brexit news  :laugh:

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« Reply #955 on: July 18, 2017, 04:14:58 AM »
Tonight I'm on my own again, she has an overnight job (she works in healthcare)  :( but at least it brings in pay.

As I do, I've been chiseling at a rocking chair I've been redoing while I listen to this recent acquire:



I still have finishing to apply to the chair but it is looking ten times how it used to look.

Oh and more Brexit news  :laugh:

That sounds an interesting and fulfilling project. Let us see or know the end results? :)
I've replaced some of the floorboards in my house before I sell it. They're oak and a couple of the pieces are suitable to do something with. So if I have time I'm thinking of making a little box to contain all my shoe polishing equipment - I like keeping my boots and shoes looking great in any case, but (and to keep this on topic ;D) women comment favourably or check them out quite often. 8)

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