Apology

[DavidW]

I wanted to apologize for my rude, boorish behavior over the past few months.  Specifically I need to apologize to Antoine, Franco, Elgarian, Mozart, Que, DaveR... actually I can't even think of all of them, it's such a long list.  Putting it that way I've been hostile, mean and just off the wall weird to a large number of posters here.

I've done some thinking and I think the fundamental problem that I have (not just with gmg but with internet forums in general) is that I have no visual cue of body language to tell me tone and intentions behind the message, and I am paranoid and jump to the worst perspective that could be whether it's true or not.  I can't perceive tone, but what I can do is give the benefit of the doubt to the poster and assume the best instead of the worst.  I am not trying to excuse my behavior, just explain it.

I'm going to take this new perspective and try to be nicer, more courteous and friendlier to my fellow gmg posters.  And I apologize for my nasty posts.

[springrite]

 0:)

[Franco]

Good to see you back - I was actually thinking about you this morning wondering when you'd post again.



FWIW, I think we all get it wrong sometimes concerning the "tone and intentions behind the message" - I know I have for sure.

[MN Dave]

But I'm used to you the old way. 

[karlhenning]

Dave, you would be No Quarter mode ; )

[Elgarian]

But equally, I find that with the best will in the world, sometimes I make a post that I think is completely inoffensive, and only in hindsight realise that it could be misinterpreted - simply because of a misjudgement of tone. As you say, we deal in the rough and tumble of ordinary conversation, yet we don't have those all-important visual clues. I'm not sure just which of my posts rubbed you up the wrong way, Dave, but I apologise for them, and would not have posted them, had I known the effect they'd have.

Certainly no bones broken on my account.
Cheers.

[knight66]

David, So good to see you back and a with very brave post. Gurn had told me you were on a break away from home.

I hope we have a sufficient mutual understanding that you know not to jump to the wrong conclusions.....unless I sign off as 'Knight'. In which instance, let the paranoia reign.

Mike

[karlhenning]

The Return of the Dark Knight . . . .

[knight66]

That would be the long Dark Knight of the soul.

Mike

[MN Dave]

Dave, you would be No Quarter mode ; )

Ah, he knows I'm just funnin'. And if he doesn't I will draft an apology on the matter.

[MN Dave]

Mike acts tough but really he's a kindly old man.

[knight66]

I definitely require an apology for that, I am not old. My mirror lies to me day by day, it is no longer reflecting me to any recognisable degree.

Mike

[MN Dave]

I definitely require an apology for that, I am not old. My mirror lies to me day by day, it is no longer reflecting me to any recognisable degree.

Mike

Heck, I know the feeling. You've known the feeling longer though.

[knight66]

Where is DavidW now? He needs to come play with us.

Mike

[DavidW]

Haha, yeah I'm here now!   I'm glad to see the replies on this thread.  I had been on spring break (perks of being a teacher), much needed at this time of the year.  It alternates between that and lots of work.  Well that's how it goes.

[Elgarian]

My mirror lies to me day by day, it is no longer reflecting me to any recognisable degree.

This presents a fascinating problem in Physics. On the one hand, we have the undeniable Laws of Geometrical Optics; on the other, we have your assertion, which equally, we may not doubt. I therefore urge upon you, Mike, to find out as quickly as you can exactly what evil forces are subverting the normal Laws of Physics in your house!

[knight66]

Alan, never mind physics and all that jazz....I have to sort out the boiler and find the digital channels on my TV, stuff like that.

Mike

[Elgarian]

Alan, never mind physics and all that jazz....I have to sort out the boiler and find the digital channels on my TV, stuff like that.

OK, OK I understand. But when you've done all those essentials, promise me you'll get those evil forces investigated.

[knight66]

I promise, but you must promise not to hold your breath.

Mike

[(poco) Sforzando]

I wanted to apologize for my rude, boorish behavior over the past few months.  Specifically I need to apologize to Antoine, Franco, Elgarian, Mozart, Que, DaveR... actually I can't even think of all of them, it's such a long list.  Putting it that way I've been hostile, mean and just off the wall weird to a large number of posters here.

I've done some thinking and I think the fundamental problem that I have (not just with gmg but with internet forums in general) is that I have no visual cue of body language to tell me tone and intentions behind the message, and I am paranoid and jump to the worst perspective that could be whether it's true or not.  I can't perceive tone, but what I can do is give the benefit of the doubt to the poster and assume the best instead of the worst.  I am not trying to excuse my behavior, just explain it.

I'm going to take this new perspective and try to be nicer, more courteous and friendlier to my fellow gmg posters.  And I apologize for my nasty posts.

In my experience with Internet forums, the people who most need to apologize for their bad behavior are never the ones who think of apologizing.