The Dating Thread

[ibanezmonster]

Dude, go to some anime conventions.

Good idea. Actually never thought of that as a place for meeting people, but that's a really good idea.

Yes. Make the effort to get laid occassionally, worry more about your interests, and don't assess every woman you meet (more than you can help  ) on some imaginary scale. And then be patient.

Cool...


Well, I guess I will try not to complain for the next year since the odds of meeting anyone are very small. But after I do get a job and move and I can actually do stuff (hopefully, if I don't have to work too much), ideas like "karate" and "anime conventions" are definitely helpful. Really, all I'd have to do get some attention from the ladies at an anime convention is cosplay as Pyramid Head. 

I appreciate the ideas, really. Very helpful.

[Mirror Image]

I've meet a woman online (through a dating site) and she seems pretty cool. We're just talking now but I could definitely see myself dating her. We're talking of meeting up for some coffee right now. Wish me luck!

[ibanezmonster]

I've meet a woman online (through a dating site) and she seems pretty cool. We're just talking now but I could definitely see myself dating her. We're talking of meeting up for some coffee right now. Wish me luck!

Good luck! 

[Mirror Image]

Good luck! 

Thanks, Greg. She seems like a cool person. I hope things work out.

[jochanaan]

I am alive to how fortunate I am to get it right the first time . . . .

You are very blessed, mein Freund.  But you know that.

[ibanezmonster]

I didn't go to that party tonight. Kinda had some hw I had to do, bottom line. Add to that, I wouldn't have known more than one person there and it just seemed like it'd be a waste of time.

I checked my pof e-mail, which I rarely do now, even after redoing my profile... I keep getting these invites:

Club THIK is a Plus Size club designed for BBW's (big beautiful women) and the men who love them!

So I'd like to see a male equivalent to this... club for BBM... wait, BHM? Apparently it's so obscure I had to look it up, and if you image search BHM, you just get pictures of shoes.

So, ummm... equality? 

Thanks, Greg. She seems like a cool person. I hope things work out.

John...? nothing for a week...? doesn't sound good...

[Mirror Image]

John...? nothing for a week...? doesn't sound good...

You're right in saying it doesn't sound good, Greg. Things didn't work out. I don't want to launch into specifics, but let me just say that if something is too good to be true, it usually is.

[snyprrr]

My honey showed up with her drunk ass boyfriend last night at the venue- hey!, at least it's a start!!   

Guys, I have soooo fucked up my shit.

That was , what, 4-5 weeks ago? Fuuuuu....

And no, I haven't even kissed her.

Fuck, Greg. I pursued your dreams and I'm fucked.

I said things this week I haven't said to anyone who wasn't just about ready to orgfasm...

oh fuck I want to ________.



I just couldn't 'play' my part- couldn't 'act' aloof and detached... told her TRUE FEELINGS.... O.H. F.U.C.K.



Last Monday I told her at first, and that was such a very nice night together,... and then she called the next day... and now I feel ill and want to vomit when I think of her. I have a choir of voices screaming all sorts of horrendous stuff at me- (i cant sleep... eat.... shit.... oh, and I've become impotent!!!! and only when she is flirting with me do I feel it come back (yes, I can't fap... it's really really bad fellas).


anyhow- I feel like a piece of shit.... I tol,d her, You're my girl but I'm not your guy.... and she ASSURES me I'm just being silly willy.




I can't stop hyperventilating.





I totally want to get absolutely wasted,... but, of course,... no... but if an eeght ball dropped from heaven,.... viewer discretion is advised here, y'know...





This is what I get ... and I'm surprised?

The things I've done for this Thread in 9 1/2 weeks is shocking and terrifyinjg.



Did I mention one girl I know began talking "money" to me the other day.... wtf???




OH, AND EVERYWHERR I'M RUNNING INTO OLD FLAMES WITH ENMITY!!!!!! I'm running out before they see me....



This is all so horrible, guys,... I feel like I'm dying.

[jochanaan]

Okay, snyprrr, deep breath, again, again.  Now let her go.  Then you can began to look around again.  (Of course you know this, but sometimes it's good to be reminded of what needs to happen. )

[ibanezmonster]

Or snyprrr can just give up. I feel better after giving up thinking about this stuff again (what is this, the third time? A bit hard to count by now...)
It's like expecting Shaq to make a free throw. Just give up.


Related....
http://elitedaily.com/dating/men-pssies-women-need-start-asking-men-dates/746965/

I agree with the first sentence of the title, before the ellipses. If you want to read an article that will make you vomit uncontrollably and then die from your brain exploding at the stupidity, read this wonderful piece of modern feminism. 

[jochanaan]

...Related....
http://elitedaily.com/dating/men-pssies-women-need-start-asking-men-dates/746965/

I agree with the first sentence of the title, before the ellipses. If you want to read an article that will make you vomit uncontrollably and then die from your brain exploding at the stupidity, read this wonderful piece of modern feminism. 

"The best lack all conviction, while the worst/Are full of passionate intensity..." (W.B. Yeats) And that seems to be the situation as women see it--with, sadly, a fair degree of accurate perception.  Good men are afraid to make moves, while bad dudes make assholes of themselves.

Now, a rule that may actually help you find friends if not lovers: "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them..." (Matthew 7:12)  You want a girl to be interested in you?  Show some interest in her.  Listen and learn what her interests actually are.  You seldom, in my experience, have to ask direct questions; she'll tell you if you only listen actively, with eye contact, an occasional smile and some leading questions along the line of "What does that mean?"  But, and this is a big "but," it has to be real.  Women are usually better than men at discerning false "interest."  Most of them, especially the beautiful ones, get way too much of it.  So, just let things develop naturally.  It won't always work, but with patience, you just might get a friend--and real friends are often more valuable than mere "lovers."

[snyprrr]

Okay, snyprrr, deep breath, again, again.  Now let her go.  Then you can began to look around again.  (Of course you know this, but sometimes it's good to be reminded of what needs to happen. )

deep breathing HAS been difficult!!!


1) Do I tell her I'm letting her go?-

I remember with ex-wifey, there came a time when the ONLY thing I could DO... was... Nothing. No calls, no attempts to contact... she said that if I had stopped right then, she could still be friends with me. Thzat's when I STARTED drinking, and, yeah, hilarity ensued, I'm sure.

I don';t do Nothing well.

I've always gotta call and talk.... and you guys know my mouth, eh?


It's Monday morning... yes, I feel somewhat shitty this morn. I want to call her and say SOMETHING- but I'm at that point where I'm hurt and feeling like lashing out, so...


LOOK- JUST HELP ME OUT HERE------- TODAY------ PLEASE----- BE MY "SPONSOR", HSAHA


There WILL no doubt be one more phonecall, or I'll no doubt see her out. WHAT DO I DO THEN??? Act all aloof, as they say? Bring a girl "friend" to make her understand?

She's going to be all the places I go....  ("You're everywhere that I'm not")


waaaah

waaaaahh




I'm reading your last Post. You're just to logicL AND EVEN TEMPERED FOR ME.(whoops)- you've obviously put your woman in her place and she likes it there!!!!

Do you think that if this girl did have feelings, she would have said SOMETHING to her best friend by now? She's saying she hasn't told anyone about "me". That's not a good sign in my book.

Can I say?: Look, it's just no "good" anymore. If you haven't told your best friend, if you don't consider us holding hands and cooing and slow dancing a "thing" worthy of sooomeone's attention---- how am I supposed to go along with that?

and the classic: WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?






anyhow--- getting agitated here-- not a good sign---- tonight is a week since our wonderful ron-de-voo... I'll be expecting (though not) a call... if I don't get it, I'm sure I'll want to contact


oh, my guts are flipping out right now--- nauseous----

[snyprrr]

that'll kill the thread, won't it?

[Mirror Image]

that'll kill the thread, won't it?

This thread has been dead pages ago.

[snyprrr]

This thread has been dead pages ago.

well, I was just read the riot act- wow, just wow,... yea,... I've the Fool Galante... am feeling the exact opposite of my two previous Posts. Wow, I played myself like a __________. I'm kind of ashamed at myself... highly embarrassed, and ... hey... where'd my balls go??


ugh

[jochanaan]

well, I was just read the riot act- wow, just wow,... yea,... I've the Fool Galante... am feeling the exact opposite of my two previous Posts. Wow, I played myself like a __________. I'm kind of ashamed at myself... highly embarrassed, and ... hey... where'd my balls go??


ugh

Don't be too hard on yourself.  It's tough to deal with an angry woman without responding in kind.  "Hell hath no fury..."  And sometimes the hardest thing for us men is to admit we're wrong and say we're sorry--and mean it.  But you really need those deep breaths now!  If you meditate or do any other "spiritual" practice, now's the time...

[ibanezmonster]

Now, a rule that may actually help you find friends if not lovers:

Actually, I could use some advice on how not to have so many friends... not that I don't like them, but there's just too many people to have time to hang out with, so I have to be really selective. That's one reason why I liked grade school better- I could ride my bike over to literally a dozen friends' houses and not have to worry so much about time.

[snyprrr]

Don't be too hard on yourself.  It's tough to deal with an angry woman without responding in kind.  "Hell hath no fury..."  And sometimes the hardest thing for us men is to admit we're wrong and say we're sorry--and mean it.  But you really need those deep breaths now!  If you meditate or do any other "spiritual" practice, now's the time...

1) there was no "angry" woman... no, she lied to herself about what was going on... ("my staring longingly into your eyes had NOTHING to do with you falling for me" etc etc etc "these heaving breasts I show all the time had NOTHING to do...")

2) I'm absolutely just like I was a day before all this started. All that angst just trickled out of my little toe, and I could eat, sleep, shit, and boner-up again. Verrry creepy what happened last week.


Obviously, I believe that God Almighty AT LEAST knows what's going to happen five minutes before it does, so, when these things happen, I look up, to ask, What's His stake here? What's He trying to show me?---- I think it was pretty obvious though, if everyone's saying, Run Away, Run Away---


Right now I'm just still in a little shock as to how this all dissipated- it just vanished in an instant when I physically saw her with my eyes the other night. Immediately she went from being My Goddess to just some poor poor creature who doesn't know what she's doing. - and I surely scared myself as to how sorry I am. ugh


I tend to like "you" as much as you like "me", buuuuut, if you're lying about your feelings, how am I to know (until, tah dah, it's too late?)





SAMPLE

In the middle of our last "conversation", she's like, "Of course I still like you, don't be silly", to which I responded, "As long as by the word "like", you mean you still find me attractive and sexy - because, of course, I already know you like me in the other way because I've been nothing but the Perfect Gentleman with you." She got this deer/headlights look which came back repeatedly over the course of the night as I dropped hot canisters of Logic and Common Sense and Common Cause and Simplicity-- she really did reveal herself to be a somewhat vapid "Amrican Born Girl of the Modern Era" who really couldn't sense anything beyond her own immediate needs/wishes.

And last week I wanted to die... mm mm mm...


So, obviously, if someone ever does actually have sex with me.... I'm probably a goner, eh?


wow- two months for NO KISS--- top that Greg!!!!





I WANT TO PLAY A GAME!!!! Who's up for it??

[ibanezmonster]

wow- two months for NO KISS--- top that Greg!!!!

27 years minus 6 weeks?

I WANT TO PLAY A GAME!!!! Who's up for it??

Ummm...?

[Guido]

This thread is actually painful for me to read. If you have not read this book, do so immediately:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061240168/sr=1-1/qid=1415837486/ref=olp_product_details?ie=UTF8&me=&qid=1415837486&sr=1-1

I don't recommend following the specific advice in it (e.g. Don't dress like an idiot, or do the gimmicky routines) because it is dated now and the subject has moved on, but it will open your eyes to what is possible, and give you a more appropriate frame of reference for the task of meeting women. Once you have read it, look online for more information.

You owe it to yourself.