The Dating Thread

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I'll give you an example, Greg. I work with this woman who I have spoken with on a few occasions and she seems to respond quite well to me and laughs at my jokes. Anyway, it was pretty cold outside tonight and when I was leaving she was telling me how cold it was outside and she cupped the side of my face instead of what people normally do which is touch my hand. She actually cupped my face which is surely a sign that she likes me. Bear in mind, I don't hardly know her. Anyway, I've have shown this woman that I'm confident and I'm genuine in learning more about her and she doesn't feel threatened by me. Anyway, as a result, I'll probably ask her out for some coffee or go have dinner sometime tomorrow. Where I'm getting at is this: be a man and don't be a coward. Get out there and ask some women out and, if all else fails, try the dating site again. Also, you should learn how to accept women for who they are and simply take them at face value. It seems like you continuously try to find fault with every encounter you have with a woman and who cares if she's not into everything you're into. You've got to be more realistic about these things, Greg.

I actually got this woman's number tonight and we plan to have coffee soon. Wish me luck. She seems like she's a pretty cool person.

[ibanezmonster]

Cool!

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Cool!

Yeah, Greg. She's actually quite assertive and bold. Certainly not afraid to tell you what's on her mind, which can be a blessing and a curse. But, in any event, I hope all goes well. If we hit it off, I'll ask her if she'd like to see a movie (the Starbucks we're going to meet at has a movie theater right down the road).

[Mirror Image]

Well, let me ask you guys something, since no one really responded to my previous post from a day or so ago: what does it mean when a woman touches the side of a guy's face with her hand? This is what this woman did to me and it was cold outside and instead of grabbing my hand to show me how cold it was, she put her hand on the side of my face. What do you make of this?

[snyprrr]

Well, let me ask you guys something, since no one really responded to my previous post from a day or so ago: what does it mean when a woman touches the side of a guy's face with her hand? This is what this woman did to me and it was cold outside and instead of grabbing my hand to show me how cold it was, she put her hand on the side of my face. What do you make of this?

yea,... no, I concur,... that's good stuff. However, here's how it goes: if she's "touchy feely", she does that to eeeveryone, but, if she says something like, "Oh, I neeever do this," then, you is da man. But, judging from your slightly suspicious demeanour, I'd say that YOU think she's being legit. I suggest the New Attitude of our Lost Puppy Brigade should be one of mild bemusement towards the fairer sex,... don't get your panties all in a bunch like I just did,... let the shit roll off your back like a duck (if possible, LPBs are known for their emotional immaturity, and can't take any kind of flak from their Object of Desire).

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yea,... no, I concur,... that's good stuff. However, here's how it goes: if she's "touchy feely", she does that to eeeveryone, but, if she says something like, "Oh, I neeever do this," then, you is da man. But, judging from your slightly suspicious demeanour, I'd say that YOU think she's being legit. I suggest the New Attitude of our Lost Puppy Brigade should be one of mild bemusement towards the fairer sex,... don't get your panties all in a bunch like I just did,... let the shit roll off your back like a duck (if possible, LPBs are known for their emotional immaturity, and can't take any kind of flak from their Object of Desire).

I'm pretty sure this woman isn't 'touchy feely'. I had only spoken to her a few times and she always smiles at me. Only someone who likes someone else would they actually touch their face. I certainly didn't pull away but what guy would have? Anyway, putting your hand on someone's face is a sure sign of intimacy. If it's not, then she's one of the most socially awkward people I know.

[ibanezmonster]

Hopefully that's the case. But it's easy to misinterpret stuff when people say abnormal stuff. Like the girl I was talking to about 4 years ago always telling me that she loves me. Okay, that would have been awesome if it were true, but it turned out that was just a thing she said, even to other people every now and then. Never knew anyone else who would say that to friends or acquaintances of the opposite gender...

[jochanaan]

I'm pretty sure this woman isn't 'touchy feely'. I had only spoken to her a few times and she always smiles at me. Only someone who likes someone else would they actually touch their face. I certainly didn't pull away but what guy would have? Anyway, putting your hand on someone's face is a sure sign of intimacy. If it's not, then she's one of the most socially awkward people I know.

Take it as a gift.  And see if she gives you more such gifts.

[Ken B]

Snyprrr on women.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU&sns=em

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Hopefully that's the case. But it's easy to misinterpret stuff when people say abnormal stuff. Like the girl I was talking to about 4 years ago always telling me that she loves me. Okay, that would have been awesome if it were true, but it turned out that was just a thing she said, even to other people every now and then. Never knew anyone else who would say that to friends or acquaintances of the opposite gender...

Umm...I didn't misinterpret this facial touching. I'm pretty sure she's not this way with anyone else, especially people she doesn't know. I definitely consider facial touching an obvious sign of affection for someone, especially when I don't know much about her.

[Mirror Image]

Take it as a gift.  And see if she gives you more such gifts.

Well, I'm just going to take it slow and let nature take it's course. If it's meant to be then it will happen.

[ibanezmonster]

So the girl that messaged me on pof wants to set up a date... which I'm open to, but the big problem is that the town she lives in is an hour away. 

And the girl I work with wants to hang out, too, as soon as she's not so busy (and no, I didn't even ask again)... if I'm dating two girls at once, it may sound great, but it's actually almost terrifying thinking about the free time I could potentially be losing. Free time is the most valuable thing that exists, after all.

Snyprrr on women.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU&sns=em

That was... amusing...

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So the girl that messaged me on pof wants to set up a date... which I'm open to, but the big problem is that the town she lives in is an hour away. 

And the girl I work with wants to hang out, too, as soon as she's not so busy (and no, I didn't even ask again)... if I'm dating two girls at once, it may sound great, but it's actually almost terrifying thinking about the free time I could potentially be losing. Free time is the most valuable thing that exists, after all.

I say go for the girl that's closer to you. I'm not much for traveling out of my town either and there's a TON of girls here since it's a college town and a women's college to be exact.

[ibanezmonster]

I say go for the girl that's closer to you. I'm not much for traveling out of my town either and there's a TON of girls here since it's a college town and a women's college to be exact.

Nice, wish my town weren't the complete opposite of a college town. Definitely the girl I work with would be preferable just because of the location... idk, I definitely plan on trying to meet the other girl, but I don't see how that could work out since if someone lives an hour away, for me they'd have to be perfect in every way possible just to get me motivated to see them once a week. And the difficulty in meeting halfway is that there is literally nothing at the halfway point- just countryside.

[Mirror Image]

Nice, wish my town weren't the complete opposite of a college town. Definitely the girl I work with would be preferable just because of the location... idk, I definitely plan on trying to meet the other girl, but I don't see how that could work out since if someone lives an hour away, for me they'd have to be perfect in every way possible just to get me motivated to see them once a week. And the difficulty in meeting halfway is that there is literally nothing at the halfway point- just countryside.

It certainly doesn't hurt to weigh your options, but, at the same time, you must prioritize as well. Would you whether waste two hours total on a girl who may or may not even show up or would you rather 'hang out' with someone that lives close to you? That's the question.

[ibanezmonster]

It certainly doesn't hurt to weigh your options, but, at the same time, you must prioritize as well. Would you whether waste two hours total on a girl who may or may not even show up or would you rather 'hang out' with someone that lives close to you? That's the question.

Exactly. Here's the message I sent just now after last night stating that I'm interested:

Shit... sorry, I just looked at your location and it's a bit far from me- like over an hour away. I'm kinda only interested in hanging out with people that live nearby. I apologize for speaking to quickly.

I mispelled "too!" Wow... 
Faced with the reality of time consumption and the idea of having to tell my parents that I've been on a dating site is making me sure that I'm going to take down my profile soon. This is something to do after I've moved. And yes, I will put my profile picture as me playing guitar instead of just a self-shot, since ever since I did that about a week ago, I've actually been getting profile views and a girl that actually isn't a 2 or 3 wanting to meet me (I'd say this girl is a 5 or 6).

So the tension is gone...

[NorthNYMark]

Nice, wish my town weren't the complete opposite of a college town. Definitely the girl I work with would be preferable just because of the location... idk, I definitely plan on trying to meet the other girl, but I don't see how that could work out since if someone lives an hour away, for me they'd have to be perfect in every way possible just to get me motivated to see them once a week. And the difficulty in meeting halfway is that there is literally nothing at the halfway point- just countryside.

As someone whose partner lives about 2.5 hours away (and across an international border), I have to admit this perspective boggles my mind somewhat. True, anyone would prefer convenience where possible in all things in life, but when it comes to matters of the heart, an hour's drive (especially without the hassle of an international border) seems like relatively small potatoes to me.  It doesn't even have to involve an overnight stay (though, presumably, you would want it to under the circumstances).  Given how rarely romantic relationships (even casual ones, which I understand is all you are seeking at this point) work out, it seems to me that your main, if not sole, criteria would be how much mutual attraction there is and how well you get along.  If someone isn't worth even an hour's drive, how could that someone possibly be worth the emotional and time investments that come with dating in general?

But it sounds like you are relatively OK with the possibility of just remaining single for quite some time until you move (and now that I realize you are living with you parents, and care enough about what they think to be concerned about telling them you're on a dating site, this perspective begins to make more sense).  I worry about that last parenthetical comment potentially coming across as insulting, and I really don't mean it that way--economic realities often force us to live in less than ideal circumstances, and sometimes it may be best to hold off on dating until those circumstances change.

[ibanezmonster]

But it sounds like you are relatively OK with the possibility of just remaining single for quite some time until you move (and now that I realize you are living with you parents, and care enough about what they think to be concerned about telling them you're on a dating site, this perspective begins to make more sense).  I worry about that last parenthetical comment potentially coming across as insulting, and I really don't mean it that way--economic realities often force us to live in less than ideal circumstances, and sometimes it may be best to hold off on dating until those circumstances change.

Oh, it's not insulting at all- actually, it's nice to see that you're understanding of this. I probably didn't add the fact that I can't even stay out too late at night because my dad has issues sleeping and needs to get to bed before 11 (I'm rushed like crazy every night I get home).

I don't think I thought through this enough... 

[snyprrr]

Snyprrr on women.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU&sns=em

AAAAAAAAND???

(how do you like my head bald?)


btw- just on the phone with the ex who was swappin' spit in the parking lot the other week: she called, mad at me for asking her for some action, and got off the phone with me basically apologizing for being such a whorish American slut!! I actually got a woman to agree that her breasts (doesn't even need the vagge) render any notion of 'Equalitie' superfluous.

I'm starting to think that trannys are just guys who see the plight of other guys and just want to offer them a little friendly "bro-ness"... I mean, isn't that a real good buddy who would trade in his junk for a surgical jelly tube just for his good 'ole pal best buddy friend? Bros gotta stick together?.... eh.... uh...

Have you ever heard snyprrrr surreptiously(?) start a conversation with a... (oh oh, better not go there.... better not go th...  better not g...)




funny/scary vid!!




I went to the former bring-your-knife redneck bar Friday night, when there was supposed to be "girls" there, and, well,... no,... and I am noticing a new trend in this new/old town I've moved to... karaoke here seems to bring out the lesbians... it's been obvious, for those who think I just say this shit, no judgemeant, just observation,... so,

8 hours later - nevermind--- bigger fish---- breaking0---- will report------

[ibanezmonster]

Another one of snyprrr's posts that I don't even understand...


ok, girl on pof messaged back "Agreed," so glad I at least wasn't irritating. Yeah, I'll shut down my pof page within the next few days (not sure why I didn't already)...