The Dating Thread

[jochanaan]

... I really want to write a nice long email, getting all of it out- just for me- don't want a reply,... what do you think?...

Write it in NotePad.  Then delete it. That way you get it out of your system without actually risking hurt or harm to anyone.  Yourself included.

[snyprrr]

Write it in NotePad.  Then delete it. That way you get it out of your system without actually risking hurt or harm to anyone.  Yourself included.

that's what the guide says

"As much as you have to say, and want to, and think it's right, don't."

Actively doing 'nothing' is life's challenge?



You know, ... I wonder if there's an herbal remedy for me?

[snyprrr]

The last thing Elgar fans want is to get into a discussion of penis size.   

POST OF THE CENTURY

[Henk]

I see Karl, and sarge, and Henk all lurking in the wings,... wink wink!!

Bloodpenis..

[snyprrr]

Bloodpenis..

SWEEET!

[Szykneij]

Personally, if I'm not going to be myself, I would rather not be anyone.

I like that philosophy.

[ibanezmonster]

Just some ideas...

I think once I get my career going and have been working maybe 3-4 years into it, I'll seriously consider getting into Japan via first teaching English. I would prefer getting straight into programming there, but Japanese is such a difficult language- you'd need it to work well with others, and even five more years of study might not be enough. After living there long enough, developing my Japanese skills, I could consider getting back into programming.

I mention this here because by the time I might move there, I'll be in my early to nearly mid 30's. Besides wanting to live there in general, the women would be a major factor in wanting to move there. The combination of finding Western men desirable + having less experience than American women is perfect. The thing about American women is that they're so much more active that it's a huge problem if their your first, and your their 21st. Not that that's a dealbreaker, but it's just such a huge difference in levels that it's really bothering to think about.

[Artem]

That's some crazy planning, Greg. Have you ever lived abroad for a long period of time?

[ibanezmonster]

That's some crazy planning, Greg. Have you ever lived abroad for a long period of time?

I haven't been out of the USA. I do realize and keep in mind the chance that doing so could possibly lead to enough headache that it's not worth it, but I'd make sure to visit a few times before moving. The amazing thing about other countries, especially ones that are extremely different, is that mundane things become interesting. That's the appeal. My surroundings are just ridiculously boring (though there are some major exceptions). To be excited to go to a convenience store because all of the foods are different is very attractive.

[Artem]

That is true. But in terms of dating, I think it may not be the best option. Foreigners are rarely accepted into locals' social circles and your stereotype about Western men being more desirable, etc. is wrong, I think. Unless you're willing to get with somebody desperate and problematic. Of course, there're individual exceptions, but you plan seems like a very troubling gamble.

[The Six]

That is true. But in terms of dating, I think it may not be the best option. Foreigners are rarely accepted into locals' social circles and your stereotype about Western men being more desirable, etc. is wrong, I think.

Nah, he's actually right about those things. And it shouldn't be hard to make friends unless you're a total creeper.

[ibanezmonster]

That is true. But in terms of dating, I think it may not be the best option. Foreigners are rarely accepted into locals' social circles and your stereotype about Western men being more desirable, etc. is wrong, I think. Unless you're willing to get with somebody desperate and problematic. Of course, there're individual exceptions, but you plan seems like a very troubling gamble.

Well, regardless, it may be worth a try. At the very least, I'd get to live in Japan for a few years and could just come back if I want.

I dunno, I've heard from many different sources about Japanese women being very interested in Western men, and the same goes for various countries in East Asia. Not like they'll be throwing their panties at you when you get off the plane, but I hear there's plenty of interest. Just gotta avoid the so-called "gaijin hunters," which I've heard weird stories about.  Of course, you have to know that they are interested in you personally, not just because you're your nationality.

As for the social circles thing, that can be a challenge, especially because of the language barrier. But as a whole, from what I've heard, it seems like Western guys who go there have a way easier time with women then the Japanese do themselves. 

[ibanezmonster]

Nah, he's actually right about those things. And it shouldn't be hard to make friends unless you're a total creeper.

Good to hear. 

[The Six]

I mean, I wouldn't advise anyone to go there with the expectation that you can just pick up any woman you want, but as a foreigner, chances are you'll have an easier time than you do in your home country. Basically if you're a stud here, you'll be a bigger one there, and if you're a hopeless goober here, you might have slightly more success.

Of course, you should actually learn the language and respect the culture, no matter what reason you're going there for.

[ibanezmonster]

I mean, I wouldn't advise anyone to go there with the expectation that you can just pick up any woman you want, but as a foreigner, chances are you'll have an easier time than you do in your home country. Basically if you're a stud here, you'll be a bigger one there, and if you're a hopeless goober here, you might have slightly more success.

Of course, you should actually learn the language and respect the culture, no matter what reason you're going there for.

That's exactly what I had in mind. Good to hear it from someone who's been there. Seems like by then I'd get plenty of attention, then, especially considering 5 more years of weight training, knowledge of language/culture, career, etc.

[ibanezmonster]

5 more years

Screw that... maybe just 3 more years. Will try to do the course as soon as I graduate.

This is what I like
(don't worry, safe to click)


Of course, personality is far more important, but dating a girl that looks something like that is definitely something I will have to do.

[ibanezmonster]

Whoa. I could go straight there after I graduate, too. Like in a year. 

After you get your bachelor's, it's "paid training in Japan." Good lord. Something to think about.

http://www.aeonet.com/application-requirements/

[Ken B]

Nah, he's actually right about those things. And it shouldn't be hard to make friends unless you're a total creeper.

The experience of my friends and remoter family members who went ot Japan and Korea to teach agrees.

[ibanezmonster]

The experience of my friends and remoter family members who went ot Japan and Korea to teach agrees.

[ibanezmonster]

The Six, did you ever get to go back to Japan?