Dating or not dating.

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When I first met my ex I had to drive about 80 minutes either way. I know that's nothing for some, but it mounts up. So I don't blame you balking at two hours.

Yeah, I saw the photo. And it's a pity. But there are lots of attractive women out there.

Indeed. I mean if I was driving a vehicle that got good gas mileage I might actually consider it, but two hours away just isn't worth the hassle, especially since she lives below Atlanta and I'd have to deal with that traffic every time I went to go see her. No thanks.

[greg]

Sounds good, Greg. Let us know how it goes.

I will. But I'm gonna keep going at it in the meantime.

Couple more girls (both arguably a 10, and brunettes!) contacted me tonight. One of them I had a conversation going, but she stopped replying for half an hour and then got offline. Not sure what happened. No, I didn't say anything stupid. 

I remember when I told my manager at my previous job that I was moving, the first thing he told me was to never, ever settle for a woman because I shouldn't ever have to. I agreed. Lol

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I will. But I'm gonna keep going at it in the meantime.

Couple more girls (both arguably a 10, and brunettes!) contacted me tonight. One of them I had a conversation going, but she stopped replying for half an hour and then got offline. Not sure what happened. No, I didn't say anything stupid. 

I remember when I told my manager at my previous job that I was moving, the first thing he told me was to never, ever settle for a woman because I shouldn't ever have to. I agreed. Lol

But eventually if you want to have a relationship with a woman then you will have to settle, but make sure you settle for someone that you could see yourself spending more and more time with.

Good luck with one of the brunettes. I signed up for Tinder tonight and have already liked many women's pictures. We'll see what happens.

[Brian]

I never question myself whenever I'm in doubt or I have a bad feeling. There's a profound reason as to why I feel that way whether I can explain it intelligently or not.

Curious, were you just elected president?

[Rinaldo]

It's interesting to read about the importance of driving distance for you guys. Over here, couples from two different cities on the opposite side of the country (100-200 miles) are nothing uncommon and they usually see each other over the weekends. I would've thought you 'muricans are used to long distances!

Speaking of those, the woman I'm seeing is going on a year-long humanitarian mission to the Middle East. I knew there was a catch as it would be too easy otherwise! But I'm looking forward to it – it's gonna be both a challenge and an opportunity (she already suggested I could visit her and I'm itching for some new travel experiences) and if the relationship survives it.. the sky's the limit.

[NikF]

Speaking of those, the woman I'm seeing is going on a year-long humanitarian mission to the Middle East. I knew there was a catch as it would be too easy otherwise! But I'm looking forward to it – it's gonna be both a challenge and an opportunity (she already suggested I could visit her and I'm itching for some new travel experiences) and if the relationship survives it.. the sky's the limit.

Long-distance relationships are workable, although it depends on the individuals involved. In many ways they're like any other relationship, in that you need to have patience, understanding, and a full and active life outside the relationship itself in order for it to be loving and healthy. However, also like ordinary relationships, stuff like whining and immaturity are a killer. But you don't seem to be that type. You're right, it'll be a challenge. But what potential reward!

[Sergeant Rock]

NikF...good to see Toots again 


Sarge

[NikF]

NikF...good to see Toots again 


Sarge

Yeah, but it's for one night only or until I can find another profile picture.

[Sergeant Rock]

Yeah, but it's for one night only or until I can find another profile picture.

Well, then...I'll just enjoy while it lasts 

Sarge

[greg]

So I decided to use the swipe right for all strategy on Tinder. I did have to pay $10 for a month of unlimited likes, but this may be amusing, at least (or depressing).

Problem is, you end up messaging someone and it breaks up your flow. Amazing how many women are on here. Probably swiped right on a couple hundred of them just now.

[greg]

Well, looks like I have someone to "have drinks with" this weekend.  (living by myself is great- I can go out and have drinks without judgemental parents now! Yay!)

I didn't flirt with her in my messages because in her full body picture, it's really hard to tell how heavy she is. Looks like a few extra pounds, but that I can tolerate since her face:  0:)  0:) 0:) wonderful lol. As long as she isn't super big when I meet her, I will show her my interest.   

She did mention drinking with friends at one point, but tbh I don't know yet if I'll be meeting her with friends or alone. If with friends, that might not be a bad thing at all!

John, I suggest you do what I did. It's only $10. You might have some interesting results. I really think maybe Tinder is the only really good way to go right now. No lasting conversations at all with anyone on POF.

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Curious, were you just elected president?

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Well, looks like I have someone to "have drinks with" this weekend.  (living by myself is great- I can go out and have drinks without judgemental parents now! Yay!)

I didn't flirt with her in my messages because in her full body picture, it's really hard to tell how heavy she is. Looks like a few extra pounds, but that I can tolerate since her face:  0:)  0:) 0:) wonderful lol. As long as she isn't super big when I meet her, I will show her my interest.   

She did mention drinking with friends at one point, but tbh I don't know yet if I'll be meeting her with friends or alone. If with friends, that might not be a bad thing at all!

John, I suggest you do what I did. It's only $10. You might have some interesting results. I really think maybe Tinder is the only really good way to go right now. No lasting conversations at all with anyone on POF.

I'm not too worried about anything right now actually. I'm just enjoying my newfound freedom. If I meet someone on Tinder, great, if I don't, then that's fine, too. No expectations = no worries.

[NikF]

I'm not too worried about anything right now actually. I'm just enjoying my newfound freedom. If I meet someone on Tinder, great, if I don't, then that's fine, too. No expectations = no worries.

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[Parsifal]

I'm not too worried about anything right now actually. I'm just enjoying my newfound freedom. If I meet someone on Tinder, great, if I don't, then that's fine, too. No expectations = no worries.

You went from "I had a nice time" to "I'm so relieved I broke it off" from one post to the next without mentioning any additional contact. Did you come to suspect she's a vampire? Watching too much true blood (or too much Buffy the Vampire Slayer)?

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You went from "I had a nice time" to "I'm so relieved I broke it off" from one post to the next without mentioning any additional contact. Did you come to suspect she's a vampire? Watching too much true blood (or too much Buffy the Vampire Slayer)?

Haha. I came to some realizations from that last date I had with her this past Friday and breaking it off with her the next day was a clear-headed decision that only I could have made. As I said in one of my posts, I'm not about to go into details here as they're of a personal nature, but I got out before too much time was invested.

[greg]

Was a little overwhelmed today. Choices, choices... but now a plan.

Plan this week: get drunks this weekend with the girl that I've been messaging yesterday and today
Next week: do not message the girl that agreed to eat dinner with me next week unless she messages me first (by Wednesday). Wednesday, if no message, all at once I will swipe right on everyone. Maybe go through 500 profiles (should only take 5 minutes lol). And I will only contact the best ones.

Think I got this mostly figured out now. 

May still ask for advice from former GMG member who is a Tinder guru. Obviously, he knows how to use the app well, considering the results. He certainly didn't settle, and I don't plan to, either. Brings to mind a fb post from a girl I used to work with: "Dust settles, I don't"  lol

I should probably ask Mr. Tinder how often he reinstalls the app and if there is a lot of new people each time he reinstalls or not. Would be very helpful to know.

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Sounds like a plan, Greg. I'm just having fun right now, too. I've got several women I'm talking to right now. Like you said: choices, choices...

[vandermolen]

Sorry to hear this John, but if you're relieved then maybe it was for the best. Hang in there, buddy.

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Jeffrey