How can I ask this question to my friend?

[Dry Brett Kavanaugh]

My good friend in Spain is planning to visit Japan in June next year. I can (and would like to) go there and travel with him. But I was wondering if he would like to travel alone. How can I ask him about his preference without making him feel awkward? Is there anyway to find his preference without asking him?

[Brian]

I think the best policy is always a direct and honest question rather than a confusing or vague or "subtle" one. However, make the question about the friend rather than yourself. e.g. Would you like company on your trip? or Are you wanting to travel alone/with your family? Not just Can I come?

Of course, if your friend says "Yes, I look forward to time with my spouse/kids/self," then that will answer it for you.

[Dry Brett Kavanaugh]

I think the best policy is always a direct and honest question rather than a confusing or vague or "subtle" one. However, make the question about the friend rather than yourself. e.g. Would you like company on your trip? or Are you wanting to travel alone/with your family? Not just Can I come?

Of course, if your friend says "Yes, I look forward to time with my spouse/kids/self," then that will answer it for you.

Well, you are American, I'm Japanese, and he's Spaniard. Yes I would like his company on my trip. We have traveled together South America a few times- just a few days for each time. A subtle question is not necessarily a confusing or unclear question, I think. Thank you for your opinion though. And you maybe right.

[Brian]

I meant you should be asking him if he wants company or is looking forward to traveling without it (or with someone else).

[Dry Brett Kavanaugh]

I meant you should be asking him if he wants company or is looking forward to traveling without it (or with someone else).

Ok, I got confused. But still such a question seems to be a little awkward.

[(poco) Sforzando]

I would not say a word or even hint at one. Leave it up to him to ask you if he's interested. Even a hint can be construed as putting pressure on your friend.

[Dry Brett Kavanaugh]

I would not say a word or even hint at one. Leave it up to him to ask you if he's interested. Even a hint can be construed as putting pressure on your friend.

Sounds very good!

[hopefullytrusting]

I would not say a word or even hint at one. Leave it up to him to ask you if he's interested. Even a hint can be construed as putting pressure on your friend.

I agree with this, but I might also try this:



Except imagine a map of Japan instead of a leash.