Dating or not dating.

[Mister Sharpe]

I don't always date but when I do, I realize I'm dreaming and wake up. This all after seeing stuff like flying cows, talking bananas and people coming to a unanimous agreement about the word "atonal".

[NikF]

Track 29 is a great film!  (I know, Oldham can be a bit over the top at times; btw, my model trains met a similar fate!)  And your story's a great one as well, thanks! (newer prosthetics are much lighter and doctors and scientists are beginning to be able to preserve more nerve tissue during amputation so as to allow the brain to actually sense and control limbs - genius!).

Thanks.
Yeah, yet there are those who berate doctors and science based medicine and all that - despite the wonders they can perform and improved quality they bring to lives.

[Bogey]

Before we had our kiddos, my wife and I would head out every Tuesday for a "date" night, because Tuesdays are probably our least favorite day of the week.  (Like Monday all over again.)  However, with two kids and  their busy schedules and school, and especially when they were younger, had us put this on hold as a standing night to do something together.  In fact, we enjoy our kiddos (14 and 18 years) so much that we were both happy to trade our night in to be with them anyways.  This is not to say that we do not do things just as a couple without them from time to time, but we do not have a set day each week.   However, last night, Tuesday, they both happened to be gone for the evening and so we went out to a restaurant and had a date, if you will.  Of course, we discussed mostly them.

[NikF]

Before we had our kiddos, my wife and I would head out every Tuesday for a "date" night, because Tuesdays are probably our least favorite day of the week.  (Like Monday all over again.)  However, with two kids and  their busy schedules and school, and especially when they were younger, had us put this on hold as a standing night to do something together.  In fact, we enjoy our kiddos (14 and 18 years) so much that we were both happy to trade our night in to be with them anyways.  This is not to say that we do not do things just as a couple without them from time to time, but we do not have a set day each week.   However, last night, Tuesday, they both happened to be gone for the evening and so we went out to a restaurant and had a date, if you will.  Of course, we discussed mostly them.

Sounds cool - and when you had your date night you ended up discussing your children. Good stuff.

[Bogey]

Sounds cool - and when you had your date night you ended up discussing your children. Good stuff.

Thanks, Nik.

Linda and I were introduced on New Year's Eve of '91.  We were engaged January 19 of '92.  Our nearly 25 years together has been nothing short of fabulous.   

Our oldest is off to college next year, so our routines that we have come to know and love will shift....it's what we had hoped for all these years, but also not looking forward to seeing our lad leave.

[NikF]

It was our second date tonight at a concert -
Haydn 6
Ravel Piano Concerto G Maj.
Tippett 1
The evening got off to a poor start when she said she had promised we'd go to a event after the concert. I was okay with that until I learned she meant after the Ravel. If it had been a third or fourth date I'd have offered to meet her there later, but it wasn't and so I missed out on the Tippett. I hadn't heard any of his music before and I'd been looking forward to it.

At the event I received a mild sneer from the barman when I asked for a glass of milk. It set the tone nicely. I wandered around until one guest started talking at me about how she's an art student (although a mature one - a well preserved mid 30s?) and her recently completed genre piece. Experience/cynical me immediately considered this a ploy on her part to have her work photographed. The hell with doing that. However she went on to mention how much she liked my (silk) scarf and about tactile cueing and *that interested me. So I took her number because I'm easy.

*along with the fact she was so casually wearing a vibrant red lipstick on lips of shape and form equal to such a task.

[greg]

I actually went on a date. 

Found someone on Tinder, but we didn't really hit it off at all.  She brought a friend, we met at a bar and then went to the science center. Nothing took place and I likely won't see her again.

It's hard to tell from pictures, but after meeting her, she really wasn't my type. I actually found someone who I think would be the best for me (compared to any other girl I've known), but we live 10 hours away now. I have a conversation with her every few weeks on facebook where I get her to laugh at my stupid jokes. She's definitely my type- smart, funny, and so easy to talk to- you can tell she's actually interested in what I'm saying. And she likes anime, so perfect combination. And I like how she laughs- not something you normally think about, but that's actually important. I could listen to her voice all day and be okay around her all day. But pretty pointless telling her that when she lives so far away and already has a boyfriend.

The girl I met just gave off way too much of a mature vibe for my taste. And she was pretty tall, pretty much my height. It felt like I was hanging out with my aunt. I'm definitely sticking to younger girls who are shorter and thinner than me, and easy going. That's definitely my type.

[greg]

Another thing that happened a while ago (back in June) was something that really didn't make any sense, but I might have an explanation now that I think about it....

a friend that I used to consider dating (~1 1/2- 2 years ago) just said something really random to me. "I was talking to my mom, and she was asking who I would date out of the people I work with, and I said that I'd choose you because you are an 8 out of 10 on looks and you have a stable income."

And back when I was really considering her, she did not give that impression at all (even though we hung out a few times). And she is extremely open about letting people know how she feels, so it wouldn't make sense at all that she would have been holding back- I don't think she liked me back then.

But when she said that to me, she had a boyfriend and I had just let her know a week or so before that I was moving away to make some good money. I think the only possible explanation was that she was looking for a guy to have fun with at parties, and that was never really my thing. But she's 23 now, not 21 any more, so priorities have probably changed a bit, especially considering how much she worries about if her school will actually get her anywhere.

[Mirror Image]

Love works in mysterious ways, Greg. Perhaps the woman that's 10 hours away is actually 'the one' for you. Sometimes things happen without any kind of explanation. I hope, whatever happens for you, it's the best thing in your life. A woman can certainly bring so much light, and happiness, into your life. I'm finding this out myself and let me explain:

I met a woman online (POF if one must truly know) and we've been talking everyday since Nov. 22nd. She's in school right now and has final exams, but promises to meet up with me after Dec. 12th. She's originally from Thailand and her English isn't too good, but she's taking a class on it right now. She's also the same age as me, which also is a plus for me as I've dated younger women and haven't had much luck whatsoever. A younger woman might be okay for you, Greg, but the level of understanding in a lot of what I talk about kind of goes over their head a lot of times. I think when I'm with a woman whose second language is English it will encourage me to speak slower and more carefully, but also choose my words much more wisely. I just need someone like this really bad and I do want to be happy, but it sure was a struggle to get there. This woman is still a mystery to me and enigmatic until I can finally meet her, but she told me my appearance (even though she's seen plenty of pictures) isn't as important as the person I am inside. I think this is important to realize as well, Greg. I understand that you're very much a 'looks' person and, granted, looks are what catches the eye first, but without the personality and a good soul, I think you'd be wasting your time unless you're about the whole 'hook-up' thing, which I'm sure you're not, but a lot of people who use that Tinder app are. Anyway, I'm really hoping things go well with this woman I met and I'm going to keep an open-mind and not get my hopes up, but who knows maybe I've found 'the one' I'm supposed to be with? Only time will tell...

[greg]

That's pretty good if you've been talking every day since Nov.22! I really hope you have good luck with her, that would be great to hear.

You might have seen the girl I'm talking about, if you saw the picture of us two on fb. She's from Taiwan, but went to college here, so English is also her second language.

You're right about Tinder... it's easy to use, but the drawback is that many of them on there are just looking for a hookup. I can't get into that; when I talk to friends who have talked about the many times they've had hookups, it just sounds depressing. I just could not sleep with anyone that I'm not in love in with, period. And to me, I can only fall in love with someone who is appealing both physically and mentally, so yeah, that's a rare thing.

I also recently just signed up for POF... I'll have to check it every now and then, though for now, the selection of what I've seen is pretty bad. The vast majority being unattractive redneck women with multiple kids. Ugh.

[Mirror Image]

That's pretty good if you've been talking every day since Nov.22! I really hope you have good luck with her, that would be great to hear.

You might have seen the girl I'm talking about, if you saw the picture of us two on fb. She's from Taiwan, but went to college here, so English is also her second language.

You're right about Tinder... it's easy to use, but the drawback is that many of them on there are just looking for a hookup. I can't get into that; when I talk to friends who have talked about the many times they've had hookups, it just sounds depressing. I just could not sleep with anyone that I'm not in love in with, period. And to me, I can only fall in love with someone who is appealing both physically and mentally, so yeah, that's a rare thing.

I also recently just signed up for POF... I'll have to check it every now and then, though for now, the selection of what I've seen is pretty bad. The vast majority being unattractive redneck women with multiple kids. Ugh.

Thanks, Greg. Sounds like our girlfriends (if we may so be so lucky to say this) come from similar backgrounds. Very interesting. I do hope you can get something brewing with this woman from Taiwan. She sounds like a keeper. Yeah, POF isn't too great and I was about to gave up until I meet this current woman I'm talking with (who lives about 30 minutes away).

[Keep Going]

Good going, greg and MI. Hopefully things turn out well for you.

I must say, I'm generally not too keen on dating sites. But then, they beat actually having to talk to girls in real life. 

I wonder whether a dating sub-forum on GMG could work. 

[Mirror Image]

Good going, greg and MI. Hopefully things turn out well for you.

I must say, I'm generally not too keen on dating sites. But then, they beat actually having to talk to girls in real life. 

I wonder whether a dating sub-forum on GMG could work. 

Thanks, Keep Going. I'm not fond of dating sites either and sometimes I feel rather embarrassed that I'm even on one (or in my case: two). It's just difficult for someone like me who is socially inept and awkward to meet a woman without sounding like a complete lunatic. But, seriously, I'm actually quite outgoing and find it very easy to talk to people, but I suppose when it comes to the more intimate side of things I get a bit withdrawn and tend to look inward. This woman I've been talking with makes it easy for me to say really stupid stuff, because she doesn't understand me half the time...lol. She told me on the phone the other day "Slow down! You talk too fast!!!" I'm trying, I really am...

I hope you meet someone, too. If you're persistent and have good intentions, then I don't see why you shouldn't have some good fortunate.

[vandermolen]

I actually went on a date. 

Found someone on Tinder, but we didn't really hit it off at all.  She brought a friend, we met at a bar and then went to the science center. Nothing took place and I likely won't see her again.

It's hard to tell from pictures, but after meeting her, she really wasn't my type. I actually found someone who I think would be the best for me (compared to any other girl I've known), but we live 10 hours away now. I have a conversation with her every few weeks on facebook where I get her to laugh at my stupid jokes. She's definitely my type- smart, funny, and so easy to talk to- you can tell she's actually interested in what I'm saying. And she likes anime, so perfect combination. And I like how she laughs- not something you normally think about, but that's actually important. I could listen to her voice all day and be okay around her all day. But pretty pointless telling her that when she lives so far away and already has a boyfriend.

The girl I met just gave off way too much of a mature vibe for my taste. And she was pretty tall, pretty much my height. It felt like I was hanging out with my aunt. I'm definitely sticking to younger girls who are shorter and thinner than me, and easy going. That's definitely my type.

Laughing at your 'stupid jokes' is definitely a good sign. 

[Mirror Image]

Laughing at your 'stupid jokes' is definitely a good sign. 

+1 My gal has been laughing at my stupidity since I started talking to her. What she doesn't know, however, is that it's not an act and I'm definitely not trying to be funny.

[Brian]

Like they say...you only need one person who will laugh at your jokes!

[greg]

So funny that John is going to meet a girl originally from Thailand. Because I'm going to be having a date with a girl who is originally from Vietnam.  (i'm assuming, since her name is Vietnamese)

I've been talking to her on Tinder that last two days. She's a 19-year old engineering student, and we were doing some major flirting. She made it obvious what she wants, big time. Looking forward to meeting her. 

And telling more stupid jokes, of course!

[Mirror Image]

Like they say...you only need one person who will laugh at your jokes!

QFT.

[Mirror Image]

So funny that John is going to meet a girl originally from Thailand. Because I'm going to be having a date with a girl who is originally from Vietnam.  (i'm assuming, since her name is Vietnamese)

I've been talking to her on Tinder that last two days. She's a 19-year old engineering student, and we were doing some major flirting. She made it obvious what she wants, big time. Looking forward to meeting her. 

And telling more stupid jokes, of course!

Awesome, Greg! Good luck, man. Let me know how everything goes.

[Mirror Image]

Well, me and my new special lady friend will be meeting on Monday. Wish me luck! We're going to be meeting in a central location (i. e. a rather large mall) and this gives us plenty of opportunity to chat, shop a little, and perhaps even grab a bite to eat.