relationships-the ups and downs-how to survive the turbulence

[George]

Once I got past the three year mark with my girl, things got better overall. We had that history. It's over 5 years now and it's hard for me to imagine where I would be without her.

Nothing beats having a long history, puts things in perspective when the sh1t hits the fan. 

I'd advise anyone to try and stay with the person whom makes him or her happy. If you aren't happy overall, or he or she is obviously unhappy, then it's time to leave.

Sure as long as that happiness lasts more than a week or so. Otherwise, we'd all be single. 

[Anne]

My husband of 38 years used to say he always got the last word, and that was, "Yes, Dear."

[Harry]

My husband of 38 years used to say he always got the last word, and that was, "Yes, Dear."

Hmmmm, sounds familiar!

[Sergeant Rock]

My husband of 38 years used to say he always got the last word, and that was, "Yes, Dear."

Works for me...and always works for Mrs. Rock. 

Sarge

[greg]

The only relationship I'm in right now is with Johannes Brahms .........

wouldn't it be great if that's all you needed? 
(figuratively, of course, as Sarge is saying)

[caulfield]

(...)Hope this helps.

[caulfield]

You must reveal you secret for preventing the sun from going down.

beautiful.

[Mark G. Simon]

My wife and I replaced a toilet today, and we're still speaking to each other.

[greg]

My wife and I replaced a toilet today, and we're still speaking to each other.

so usually when husbands and wives replace a toilet, they stop speaking to each other?

(learning something new every day...)

[knight66]

It depends what they replaced it with, also who was more attached to the toilet.

Mike

[Anne]

greg,

you just need to be married a while or else observe married people in your area.  Married people can argue about ANYTHING.  My mother- and father-in-law were married 65 years, totally devoted to each other, but could argue about anything! 

[greg]

greg,

you just need to be married a while or else observe married people in your area.  Married people can argue about ANYTHING.  My mother- and father-in-law were married 65 years, totally devoted to each other, but could agrue about anything! 

i know that, but to completely stop talking because of a toilet...... arguing and not talking to each other for a while is a bit different

[Anne]

It depends what is going on in the relationship.  Sometimes a fight about money is really about power in the relationship.

Here's a different scenario:  Let's say he does not listen to her when she offers suggestions.  That bothers her and has for some time.  (The following is not likely to happen but I use it merely for demonstration purposes.)  Today she says, "Don't you think we should turn off the water before we remove this toilet and take it out to the garage?"  He says it's not necessary as they will be done quickly.  She heaves a sigh and bends to help pick up the toilet from the floor.  She is immediately soaked with water!  We now see in action the scenario known as "mad as a wet hen!" 

Next he is not sympathetic to her as she's been making dumb suggestions all day and has been on his nerves for quite some time.  In addition, he feels she does not trust him to do a manly job competently.  (which she doesn't)  It doesn't help that both were kept awake last night by a baby with a fever (ear infection).

Now you see how a simple job like replacing a toilet can cause the couple to not speak to each other. 

[Anne]

Maybe someone else can come up with another scenario.

Actually we should have a contest to see who can come up with the best story.

We could all vote for the best one.

[mahlertitan]

greg,

you just need to be married a while or else observe married people in your area.  Married people can argue about ANYTHING.  My mother- and father-in-law were married 65 years, totally devoted to each other, but could argue about anything! 

that is so true! and the more they argue it seems, the more stable the marriage, my parents argue ALL THE TIME, but they are very devoted to each other, and the marriage is solid as rock.... it is rather counterintuitive that there are couples who get along great initially but can all of sudden divorce each other in a heartbeat.

[Mark G. Simon]

Just the decision to undertake a home improvement project such as replacing a toilet, as opposed to calling a plumber, offers many opportunities for marital discord. For instance: she says "Are you sure you know what you're doing?", he says "sure I got instructions right here from off the web", she "but have you ever done this before", he "no, but how hard could it be? I've got the directions right here, look..." she rolls her eyes "you could just call a plumber you know" he "honey, do you know how much they charge? They walk in the door and immediately give you a bill for 1000 bucks". She "and how much did it cost us to repair things the time you tried to..." "honey it wasn't my fault" "oh jeezis, give me  a break for cryin' out loud, you nearly burnt the house down" "I most certainly did not! And if I have to listen to that crap from you one more time so help me I'm going to..."

and it all goes downhill from there.

Well, none of that happened yesterday. Actually it was Owlice's idea to do it herself, and she insisted on doing most of the work. I stood by and handed her parts and tools, and gave encouraging words when she started cursing at the toilet. She never cursed at me.

[Szykneij]

[BachQ]

[Mozart]

I guess my cause is helpless then because I always ignored any stupid arguments ive ever had. It also turns out to be an argument about how stupid, stupid arguments are..

Do I need a comma if i use the same word in a sentence twice?

[George]

I guess my cause is helpless then because I always ignored any stupid arguments ive ever had. It also turns out to be an argument about how stupid, stupid arguments are..

Do I need a comma if i use the same word in a sentence twice?

Yes, yes you do.