relationships-the ups and downs-how to survive the turbulence

[yashin]

Are there any secrets to maintaining a good, healthy relationship with your nearest and dearest?

One minute your up and the next minute you are down.......my head is left spinning sometimes.

[head-case]

Are there any secrets to maintaining a good, healthy relationship with your nearest and dearest?

One minute your up and the next minute you are down.......my head is left spinning sometimes.

Find a nearest and dearest that doesn't do that to you, I'd advise.

[Mark G. Simon]

Always be open with her. Be yourself. Don't keep any secrets. Treat her with kindness. Have a sense of humor.

[Mozart]

Stay single.

[mahlertitan]

don't form relationships, just have meaningless sex.

[Joe_Campbell]

don't form relationships, just have meaningless sex.

yes..that causes no emotional ups and downs...especially if the OP is female. Good call.

[Harry]

Respect my friend for each other, in mind and body, and alert to each other wishes and dislikes.
But the main thing is unselfish love, never wanting to be first. It worked for me 25 years, and still going strong. 0:)

[knight66]

Never let the sun go down without resolving any argument.

Mike

[Novi]

Never let the sun go down without resolving any argument.

Mike

Them's wise words, my friend.

[George]

Are there any secrets to maintaining a good, healthy relationship with your nearest and dearest?

One minute your up and the next minute you are down.......my head is left spinning sometimes.

I feel you, bro. I am beginning to think that relationships are roller coaster rides and it's best to strap oneself in for the ride. 

One secret, I believe, is to not define what a relationship is supposed to be. That way, you'll be a lot less angry and disappointed when it doesn't match your mental image.

Another secret is acceptance. To love and accept someone for who they are, not who you want them to be, sets the stage for a healthy relationship.

Another is personal growth. You can't have a healthy relationship unless both people are healthy. And people don't tend to be healthy without working on themselves each day. Whether therapy, exercise, religion, etc., support is needed. 

Oh, and that head spinning part? That can either be confusing or exciting, your choice. 

[mahlertitan]

yes..that causes no emotional ups and downs...especially if the OP is female. Good call.

thank you, looks like you recognized my "brave new world" philosophy.

[Joe_Campbell]

thank you, looks like you recognized my "brave new world" philosophy.

haha...just like you recognized my 'sarcasm' philosophy.

[greg]

Are there any secrets to maintaining a good, healthy relationship with your nearest and dearest?

One minute your up and the next minute you are down.......my head is left spinning sometimes.

listen to the people who have been married a long time.

then again, you can stay single but what fun is that 

[head-case]

Never let the sun go down without resolving any argument.

Mike

You must reveal you secret for preventing the sun from going down.

[BachQ]

The only relationship I'm in right now is with Johannes Brahms .........

[Haffner]

Once I got past the three year mark with my girl, things got better overall. We had that history. It's over 5 years now and it's hard for me to imagine where I would be without her.

I'd advise anyone to try and stay with the person whom makes him or her happy. If you aren't happy overall, or he or she is obviously unhappy, then it's time to leave. But that's my perspective. I'll probably marry my girl, we've made it this far in a culture which sees Britney Spears get married and divorced the same day.

[Solitary Wanderer]

What ever you do don't discuss touchy issues with your darling 'cause it only makes it worse! Much better to squash your hurt and resentment into a bitter ball and forget about it.



But seriously  It can be difficult sometimes to maintain a relationship but then the rewards are much sweeter. It can be difficult to broach tricky subjects sometimes but for me, its best to do it in an unemotional moment rather than when you're pissed off! I've been with my wife for 12 years so we've had planty of ups and downs. Its been great since our daughter left home [about 5 years ago] so we can focus on just us and what we want to do. At the end of the day we have alot in common as well as a shared history now.

My wife fills every day with joy and good humour 

[Mark]

My wife fills every day with joy and good humour 

Nice plug.

[Sergeant Rock]

The only relationship I'm in right now is with Johannes Brahms .........

Better keep that to yourself, D...necrophilia is a crime in the States...well, not Arkansas.

Sarge

[Sergeant Rock]

Are there any secrets to maintaining a good, healthy relationship with your nearest and dearest?

Yes, always let her win the argument. She'll thank you in very pleasant ways 

Sarge