Dating or not dating.

[NikF]

I'm not desperate but I'm working towards being very prolific in the art of asking the female species out and the that stuff.

The more I fail the more I don't care.

Somehow I don't think I'll end up dating the girl from last week (who is just a hang out once a week kind of friend by the looks of it) but who knows?


There are several girls that I'm ready to pounce on  (I'm being facetious of course  )
Let's see how this week turns out, I already feel a different person this week 

Glad to hear it.

Yeah, don't be afraid to fail. More exactly, don't be afraid to fail at anything. The worst thing about failure is that it can eventually stop people trying or at least trying their best. So don't be afraid of failing at anything; dating, friendships, creative pursuits, baking bread etc.
Keep moving forward.

[ComposerOfAvantGarde]

You and her are an amazing anomaly 
Such a crazy and unexpected (me finding out later on) turn of events, I'm very happy that you're both having a great time. It must be so surreal 

Great to hear, best wishes Jessop 

Thank you! It's a lot of fun. Here's us when we went to see Lohengrin recently:



(Both of us are happy to share this photo, sorry it's a bit blurry and badly lit though hahah)

[aleazk]

She's very pretty, and, from what I recall based on a few brief chats I had with her some months ago, very nice too. I hope everything goes well.

[NikF]

(Both of us are happy to share this photo, sorry it's a bit blurry and badly lit though hahah)

It could be even more underexposed and poorly lit, but the joy and happiness you both exude would still shine through.
Good stuff.

[NikF]

"Nothing really matters, anyone can see
Nothing really matters
Nothing really matters to me
Any way the wind blows"



(I had an amazing experience with a girl that I know, let's just say I'm euphoric   
)

Give us a clue? Animal, vegetable, mineral? Metaphysical and abstract? Or earthly and palpable? Nice and sweet? Or "Dear forum, I am currently seeking an alibi"?

[NikF]

Right now I'm in both a state of disbelief and euphoria. I can't believe this happened!

I truly can't stop smiling 

http://www.youtube.com/v/535Zy_rf4NU

[NikF]

I've been with a decent amount of girls in my time so far but as for 2017, the year of University and coffee: not so impressive up to this point.
But this point is now a turning point 

This girl was my first catch of the year, she's wow 

Good. And I believe it needs to be said that you did the right thing by wrapping it up.

[ComposerOfAvantGarde]

Congrats again J. I'm glad it's turned out really well for both of you 

(ps. Does she live in Melbourne now?)

Nah she doesn't live here. I am currently working towards doing a postgraduate degree in Munich, where she lives.

[ComposerOfAvantGarde]

I am really curious as to terms such as 'pursue' and 'catch' when it comes to meeting 'girls' as I'm very unfamiliar with this kind of terminology and what it implies. Perhaps Alien could shed some light on the philosophy or personality that these words come from? Is it an extension of the 'plenty more fish in the sea' metaphor/aphorism?

[snyprrr]

I thought it said "Ranting or not ranting"

[aleazk]

Meh not dating. Only bad experiences in this department, so I decided to quit, since there's a limit in the amount of sh*t I can take before it starts to interfere with my mental health. I guess I will have to be one of those persons that devote their life to their work. Certainly solitary, but I'm rather used to it by now.

[NikF]

Meh not dating. Only bad experiences in this department, so I decided to quit, since there's a limit in the amount of sh*t I can take before it starts to interfere with my mental health. I guess I will have to be one of those persons that devote their life to their work. Certainly solitary, but I'm rather used to it by now.

Sometimes all it takes is to do nothing. If your life is in order and you're regularly doing stuff in proximity to others, meeting someone can then be avoidable.

[ComposerOfAvantGarde]

Persue = Exactly what it means otherwise, just applied to dating? 

Catch = Finally having sex with someone you know.


Umm, I don't know what else to say there....

Have you been pursued then and is that why you describe it thus? I've never thought of using that word nor did I ever think that the purpose for meeting peoole was intercourse, but it is interesting to get an insight into how you relate to the people you wish to be close with. 

[ComposerOfAvantGarde]

Colloquial terms dude, colloquial terms 

Human relationships and desires vary.
Sometimes two people just want pleasure, other times they want long-term dedicated relationships.

Not everything works out for everyone, not everyone wants or can handle long-term commitments for various reasons.
I had a lucky night, doesn't happen often but sometimes you meet someone who also needs to let go of stress, in this case through sex.

It's all perfectly fine as long as you're both completely honest and genuine with each other. I'm still looking for a proper girlfriend though, I'll happen sooner or later. Dating is still my game, I feel far more relaxed and confident with life right now 

Yes I think it's fascinating to hear how different it is for everyone. I do hope you feel relaxed and confident; I wouldn't feel myself if I wasn't relaxed and comfortable with the way things are in life (becuase 'relaxed' and 'comfortable about myself' is my natural state of being).

How different is your approach to finding a girlfriend than finding someone for some sex?

[aleazk]

Sometimes all it takes is to do nothing. If your life is in order and you're regularly doing stuff in proximity to others, meeting someone can then be avoidable.

Ha life in order...ha 

[NikF]

Ha life in order...ha 

Quite often all that entails is making inroads to doing things like eating and sleeping properly, taking some exercise or even a walk on a regular basis. When those are taken care of then other stuff can fall nicely into place. 

[aleazk]

Quite often all that entails is making inroads to doing things like eating and sleeping properly, taking some exercise or even a walk on a regular basis. When those are taken care of then other stuff can fall nicely into place. 

Yes, I know that's so true, since when I had better habits I felt much better. But it's a bit difficult for me to do it now because I'm having a hard time dealing with the containers of shit thrown at me by life in the recent past.

[Rinaldo]

Yes, I know that's so true, since when I had better habits I felt much better. But it's a bit difficult for me to do it now because I'm having a hard time dealing with the containers of shit thrown at me by life in the recent past.

I hear ya. Been there, still am in certain areas. But I'm slowly getting back into shape, both mentally and physically. Re-started exercising recently and while it hurts, I also feel much better and am able to sleep better. Makes all the difference.

[NikF]

Time for updates. Put the kettle on.

My neighbour has work in the morning which means it's an early night. We dated a while back and I wasn't comfortable with it and stopped. But now we've been getting together whenever we feel like it. I don't know what happens next, but she's a nice person and I'm cool with where it's at right now.
(for anyone following my soap opera love life, she's the amateur violinist who holds alternative spiritual beliefs.)


Interlude.


I'll now mention my best friend (and assistant/arch nemesis etc) Iain, who at the age of 29 is living with someone for the first time. He said he would never do it, that he enjoyed the single life and his own space and all that. But he started dating a girl he worked with (a model) and having mustered enough manliness to quit being a self entitled special snowflake and thereafter refrain from ever being all whining and needy, they're shacking up together. She's lovely and warm and beautiful (and 19) while he's a cool and good guy. I'm happy for them both. God(s) bless their little cotton socks.



Interlude over.



The perils of being outside and making eye contact and smiling at strangers continues to prove itself to be a clear and present danger.

Last week I was walking home from town in the late morning and light rain.
Passing the entrance ramp to the supermarket I approached a part of the pavement broad enough for only two.
I looked up to see crossing the little road a small woman carrying a big bag in each hand.
The hood of her jacket was partially raised, she was wearing glasses and had well formed full lips painted with a plum colour lipstick.
By this point I knew what was going to happen next.
As we reached each other she smiled, lowered her chin a little and said hello.
Do you know what my thought was right then? I bet you don't. But here's some space for you to consider what it was.

You lose.
I thought "She's Persian".
Again, I knew what was going to happen next.
She kept eye contact, slowed down and then stopped.
I stopped too.
She had done her part and now it was my turn.
I asked if I knew her from somewhere because she seemed familiar, although that was a lot of crap because I'd never seen her before in my life.
But she knew that it was crap and chose to play along, instead telling me that she sees me in the supermarket sometimes.
I still had no idea who she was.
Unless a stranger makes it clear that they don't even want looked at I'll usually say hello or at least smile. So that's a lot of women I've *smiled at.
It was still raining and we were selfishly blocking the narrow part of the pavement.
We agreed the next time we were both shopping in the same place to say hello.
I told her to make a point of it.


*I also smile at cats and dogs, babies, old people, joggers, gardeners, buskers, content creators, shopgirls,  postmen, cops, morlocks, retired majors who long for the days of the raj, amateur photographers, Jim Hutton as Ellery Queen, religious types, fanbois, militant lesbians, cinematographers on rollerskates, organ grinders but not their monkeys, and gangs of street urchin thugs who would mug you without hesitation. But not at insurance salesmen, because that just encourages them.

[Sergeant Rock]

*I also smile at cats and dogs, babies, old people, joggers, gardeners, buskers, content creators, shopgirls,  postmen, cops, morlocks, retired majors who long for the days of the raj, amateur photographers, Jim Hutton as Ellery Queen, religious types, fanbois, militant lesbians, cinematographers on rollerskates, organ grinders but not their monkeys, and gangs of street urchin thugs who would mug you without hesitation. But not at insurance salesmen, because that just encourages them.

My best friend owns an insurance agency. I'll have to show him that paragraph 

Sarge