I Don’t Know Where To Post This, But I’m Leaving...

[Mirror Image]

I don't know where to post this, but I have to say I'm going to be leaving the forum as it's quite evident that I simply can't be honest with other members without getting kicked in the face with snipes and accusations that don't really do anything but make me feel like I'm some snot-nosed kid that doesn't know any better. The 'red-headed step child' if you will. All my life I've been rejected. I never was a 'cool guy' nor was I someone that had a lot of friends. I was lucky to even have one friend. This isn't a pity party just the truth of the matter. GMG was one place I could come to where I did feel like I was finally amongst my people, because, quite frankly, there's no one in my life that loves classical music as much as I do. I'm probably going to see if I can get back on Talk Classical or even just find other avenues to share my love of this music with other people.

Thanks to those members who have been gracious, accepting, and more than tolerant of my stupidity. I'm humbled and really appreciate the numerous conversations. It's certainly been an education to say the least!

[Baron Scarpia]

I don't know where to post this, but I have to say I'm going to be leaving the forum as it's quite evident that I simply can't be honest with other members without getting kicked in the face with snipes and accusations that don't really do anything but make me feel like I'm some snot-nosed kid that doesn't know any better. The 'red-headed step child' if you will. All my life I've been rejected. I never was a 'cool guy' nor was I someone that had a lot of friends. I was lucky to even have one friend. This isn't a pity party just the truth of the matter. GMG was one place I could come to where I did feel like I was finally amongst my people, because, quite frankly, there's no one in my life that loves classical music as much as I do. I'm probably going to see if I can get back on Talk Classical or even just find other avenues to share my love of this music with other people.

Thanks to those members who have been gracious, accepting, and more than tolerant of my stupidity. I'm humbled and really appreciate the numerous conversations. It's certainly been an education to say the least!

I hope you won't leave, and I hope my recent comment is not the reason. If it is the case and I have made you feel that I don't welcome your presence on the board, I apologize. My intention was to give you to understand why your criticism of Sammy's usage of the board would likely give offense.

[GioCar]

C'mon John, let it go. Tomorrow will be another day.

[Daverz]

I hope you'll come back.  I took a long break some time ago, and it worked out well.

[Florestan]

You'll eventually come back, you know you will, so why leaving in the first place?

Please, don't. You are a valuable member of our community.

[Hollywood]

Say it isn't so! I hate hearing about people leaving a forum because their opinions are being attacked or they feel they are being bullied by other posters.

I know exactly what you're talking about growing up not being "the cool kid", being picked on and not having many friends. As a child I loved two things in life (which I admit I still love to this day), Beethoven and vampires. Never really had a true friend until my freshman year of high school in 1970 when I met my best friend for life who is the biggest SciFi and medical science fan ever. We have been best buds now for 48 years and I consider her the sister I never had.

It's just a damn shame that once you think you have found a place, like this forum, where you finally feel accepted, there will always be some people who will cut you and your opinions down. Please don't let those people bring you down and make you feel that you need to leave. Even though they are allowed to have their own opinions, I just wish that they would think twice about how their words will affect others. But if you do decide to leave I hope you are able to find a new forum where you will feel accepted and at home. Take care. 

[aligreto]

You need to consider two things: your opinion is as valid as anyone else's here and there is always the ignore facility 

[Cato]

You'll eventually come back, you know you will, so why leaving in the first place?

Please, don't. You are a valuable member of our community.

Amen!  0:)


If you are still reading this...

The 'red-headed step child' if you will. All my life I've been rejected. I never was a 'cool guy' nor was I someone that had a lot of friends. I was lucky to even have one friend. This isn't a pity party just the truth of the matter. GMG was one place I could come to where I did feel like I was finally amongst my people, because, quite frankly, there's no one in my life that loves classical music as much as I do.

Those comments describe me as well, and probably describe a good number of others!

So, please reconsider!

[Karl Henning]

Shake it off, John.

[Mirror Image]

After a good night's rest, I have decided not to leave to the dismay of some I imagine. What I am going to do, however, is keep a low profile for awhile. I want to thank the members here who have come forward on this thread and asked me not to leave. This was a great surprise to me.

I do want to say that my decision wasn't one specific member, but a combination of several of them. Thanks to all who posted on this thread!

[arpeggio]

FYI.

I do not have the time to read every thread and post in GMG.

Based on the ones I have read you have never said anything that bothers me  .

[Gurn Blanston]

Shake it off, John.

Good advice there. New day, new way.

[71 dB]

I'm going to be leaving the forum as it's quite evident that I simply can't be honest with other members without getting kicked in the face with snipes and accusations that don't really do anything but make me feel like I'm some snot-nosed kid that doesn't know any better.

I have had similar feelings in the past. I guess they are normal reactions to what kind of place the internet is.

All my life I've been rejected.

Same feelings here except I have been blessed with a few moments of acceptance in my life. I try to value those and learn how to not make other people feel rejected.

I never was a 'cool guy' nor was I someone that had a lot of friends. I was lucky to even have one friend.

Quality over quantity. One real friend if better than 10 "friends." I don't have many friends either, but those few I have are GREAT!

This isn't a pity party just the truth of the matter. GMG was one place I could come to where I did feel like I was finally amongst my people, because, quite frankly, there's no one in my life that loves classical music as much as I do. I'm probably going to see if I can get back on Talk Classical or even just find other avenues to share my love of this music with other people.

Online discussion boards aren't easy ways to get friends. I may have had such illusion in the past, but not anymore. On a bad day my posts just piss off other people and on the good day people support/agree with what I say. The alternative is to stay offline.

Thanks to those members who have been gracious, accepting, and more than tolerant of my stupidity. I'm humbled and really appreciate the numerous conversations. It's certainly been an education to say the least!

I'm sorry if I have made you feel rejected. You have been an insanely active member of this board and as such an asset. You are entitled to seek for happiness elsewhere and I wish you the best with it.

[Mirror Image]

71 dB, that was a most cordial, and welcoming, post and I appreciate it! I know you and I have had a few scuffs, but I do value your camaraderie.

[André]

I left twice before, it was the right decision for me at the time. Today I would not have that reaction.

From what I've seen of your activity in this forum John, I see 98% positive, and maybe one inconsequential faux pas. Not a bad report card, lemme tell you !

I, and no doubt others as well have a very high opinion of your contribution to GMG. Cheers, my friend !

[LKB]

MI,

It will be obvious by now from the responses here that people would miss your contributions. I would include myself among them.

Lots of opinions, and as the saying goes, many will have an unpleasant aroma a good deal of the time. Just shake it off, as a wise man has already posteth, and remember that maintaining perspective can help you more than just about anything.

Cheers,

LKB

[Traverso]

 Going to another forum, there you will find the same frictions, head on and breathe in and out,that's all

[Jaakko Keskinen]

We have been at variance with each other sometimes but I definitely don't want you to leave the forum.  You're a valuable member of this community! 

[71 dB]

71 dB, that was a most cordial, and welcoming, post and I appreciate it! I know you and I have had a few scuffs, but I do value your camaraderie.

Thanks!

Yes, there has been disagreements between us on some things, but that's life. We can still try to respect each other...

[PerfectWagnerite]

GMG was one place I could come to where I did feel like I was finally amongst my people,

Dude you sound like you are coming out of the closet.

But seriously if you just take the saying "opinions are like assholes, everyone has one." Then stuff people say won't bother you.