Dating or not dating.

[Brian]

Good luck!

[Mirror Image]

Good luck!

Thanks, Brian. Oh, I forgot to ask you, how are things going with you and your girlfriend?

[NikF]

Well, me and my new special lady friend will be meeting on Monday. Wish me luck! We're going to be meeting in a central location (i. e. a rather large mall) and this gives us plenty of opportunity to chat, shop a little, and perhaps even grab a bite to eat.

Good stuff. First date - so play it cool, regardless. And enjoy yourself. 

[Mirror Image]

Good stuff. First date - so play it cool, regardless. And enjoy yourself. 

Thanks, Nik. I wish I knew how to play it cool as I'm definitely not a cool person by any means.

[NikF]

Thanks, Nik. I wish I knew how to play it cool as I'm definitely not a cool person by any means.

You're welcome.
The thing is, you don't need to be a cool person, you only need to be yourself. And from where I'm sitting you seem to be an interesting and friendly guy and so you should definitely be yourself.

As for the part about playing it cool, I always make sure that if I'm part of a scenario or in a situation where I could become excited or anxious or stressed or perhaps even worried, I simply remember to keep breathing, nice and easy and steady and relaxed. Do that and people will pick up on it and by default you'll be the coolest guy around - and most importantly, you'll feel great and be able to enjoy the moment.

[Mirror Image]

You're welcome.
The thing is, you don't need to be a cool person, you only need to be yourself. And from where I'm sitting you seem to be an interesting and friendly guy and so you should definitely be yourself.

As for the part about playing it cool, I always make sure that if I'm part of a scenario or in a situation where I could become excited or anxious or stressed or perhaps even worried, I simply remember to keep breathing, nice and easy and steady and relaxed. Do that and people will pick up on it and by default you'll be the coolest guy around - and most importantly, you'll feel great and be able to enjoy the moment.

Thanks a lot, Nik. Right back at you! I'm going to take your suggestions and keep them in mind. I don't have a lot of experience with women as I have only had one serious girlfriend in my life, but I can certainly see how being relaxed could help give a better overall impression.

[vandermolen]

Well, me and my new special lady friend will be meeting on Monday. Wish me luck! We're going to be meeting in a central location (i. e. a rather large mall) and this gives us plenty of opportunity to chat, shop a little, and perhaps even grab a bite to eat.

Yes, good luck from me too. Don't introduce her to Allan Pettersson's music on the first date! Seriously, hope it goes well.

[Mirror Image]

Yes, good luck from me too. Don't introduce her to Allan Pettersson's music on the first date! Seriously, hope it goes well.

Thanks, Jeffrey. I don't think I'd ever introduce her to Pettersson. Shostakovich, Mahler, or Sibelius, on the other hand, she'll be more than likely will get an earful.

[lisa needs braces]

When it comes to modern women, the juice is simply not worth the squeeze.

[Rinaldo]

When it comes to modern women, the juice is simply not worth the squeeze.

Very silly statement.

[vandermolen]

Thanks, Jeffrey. I don't think I'd ever introduce her to Pettersson. Shostakovich, Mahler, or Sibelius, on the other hand, she'll be more than likely will get an earful.

I remember when I was going out with my wife I played her a record of John Foulds's 'Dynamic Triptych' hoping to impress her. I remember that all she said was: 'well, it certainly is dynamic!' After that I played a pop music station whenever she was in the car with me. Foolishly I left the radio tuned in to the pop station when I gave a lift to my classical-music loving older brother who sarcastically commented: 'is this what you listen to when Katy is in the car?'

[Mirror Image]

I remember when I was going out with my wife I played her a record of John Foulds's 'Dynamic Triptych' hoping to impress her. I remember that all she said was: 'well, it certainly is dynamic!' After that I played a pop music station whenever she was in the car with me. Foolishly I left the radio tuned in to the pop station when I gave a lift to my classical-music loving older brother who sarcastically commented: 'is this what you listen to when Katy is in the car?'

Hah! Great story, Jeffrey. Yeah, I'm not too worried about what music she likes as long as she listens to something. I'm not expecting any woman I date to have the same musical tastes as me as if she did, I'd definitely be questioning her mental stability.

[Mirror Image]

When it comes to modern women, the juice is simply not worth the squeeze.

Thanks for dropping by. By your token, nobody is worth knowing and a person should be alone for the rest of their life. Sorry, but life is much more fulfilling when there are people in it that genuinely care about you. That's what truly matters.

[vandermolen]

Hah! Great story, Jeffrey. Yeah, I'm not too worried about what music she likes as long as she listens to something. I'm not expecting any woman I date to have the same musical tastes as me as if she did, I'd definitely be questioning her mental stability.

[greg]

Well, last night was pretty fun. 

But I'm really not sure that this actually going to turn into a relationship. I'm kinda thinking it won't. The problem is she lives an hour away and doesn't have a car. I really wouldn't want to see her more than twice a month because of the distance and the staying up late.

I think we got to bed at 3 or so and then she wanted me to drive her home at 6:30 this morning! So that's one thing that would change if I saw her again- her sleep patterns are weird, so I guess that's normal for her- but not for me.

btw, where the hell is snyprrr?

[greg]

When it comes to modern women, the juice is simply not worth the squeeze.

I have a feeling that you need to move to an Eastern country. From what I've heard, completely different how they do dating and such in China. Might be more your style.

[greg]

Well, last night was pretty fun. 

But I'm really not sure that this actually going to turn into a relationship. I'm kinda thinking it won't.

Hmm... looks like she was only interested in that one night and nothing else. She says she has a sex addiction. People like that typically aren't interested in relationships, I suppose.

Oh, well. I was hoping for a bit more, but I still don't regret it.

[Mirror Image]

Hmm... looks like she was only interested in that one night and nothing else. She says she has a sex addiction. People like that typically aren't interested in relationships, I suppose.

Oh, well. I was hoping for a bit more, but I still don't regret it.

My question is what did you really expect? You met this woman on Tinder, which, from what I've read, is a site geared only towards 'hooking up'. If you stop looking, you may very well be surprised by the outcome. To be honest, I wasn't really 'looking' for anyone as I was about ready to 'throw in the towel' so to speak whenever I received a message on that dating site POF and it was this woman I'm meeting today. I spoke to someone at work and she said she met her boyfriend on POF as well and they've been seeing each other for 6 or 7 years already. The intent is always the most important factor in looking for someone, because if you don't know where they stand and what they want (i. e. a relationship, marriage in the future), then it's not really worth pursuing. And I hate to say this, as I've said it many times before, you really should look for someone around your age. I know you don't want to date someone who has children. There are actually plenty of people your age who don't have children just like there are plenty that do. You just have to dig a bit more to find someone, but dating someone who is 7-10 years younger than you are is like dating someone who is an alien from another planet. You'd have nothing in common on an intellectual/emotional level. Anyway, it's your life, but you really ought to be a bit more open in your preferences and what kind of person you'd date, because you're not going to find anyone within those narrow perimeters.

[Mirror Image]

Just got back home from my date about 30 minutes ago and we had such a great time together. We plan to meet up again (perhaps next weekend). She's really a beautiful person inside and out. She also is incredibly intelligent as back in her home country of Thailand she's a computer programmer. She's on a school visa (or some kind of one) and she's allowed to stay here for three years. Her English isn't too bad, but she's getting better and learning. I found out her brother went to Rice University (the same as Brian) and majored in chemistry and went back to Thailand to become a professor. Also, both of her parents are teachers and her mom teaches English! Anyway, I had a blast learning more about her and I hope for many more dates to follow.

Here's the obligatory selfie that she insisted on taking:

[Ken B]

Good news John! Hope it goes well.