So I Like This Woman At Work...

[North Star]

I would think twice about dating someone at work:

Are you in anyway considered in a supervisory role?  If so, do not ask her out.
Does she work in your area, IOW, will you see her everyday at work?  Do not ask her out unless she works on a different floor than you and you are equals in position, salary, etc.
Your compliments and joking around may seem like easy banter to you, but she might feel uncomfortable and could accuse you of sexual harassment.  Don't laugh, employee lawsuits are filed everyday based on just these kinds of situations.

There is an expression: don't shit where you eat.

If you do go out and you don't get married, you will break up at some point.  Do you really want to be dealing with an ex-girlfriend at work?

This is something to consider, too.

[eyeresist]

If she doesn't like Mahler, then she'll be the one for me. I can deal with her liking Bach, Beethoven, or Mozart, but liking Mahler is a sin.

If she's a psych major, she's crazy, and therefore likes Mahler

Good luck.

[Karl Henning]

But in case she likes good music, don't dump on Bach, Mozart and Beethoven on the first date. 

+1 (* chortle *)

[Mirror Image]

Next week I'll be on vacation and I hope to see this woman before then, so there's a possibility we could go out, but I haven't seen her since last week. Anyway, that's the only news I have to post right now.

[DavidW]

MI you'll have to walk up to her and sing "I just met you and this is crazy, but here is my number, call me maybe..."

[AnthonyAthletic]

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[Mirror Image]

MI you'll have to walk up to her and sing "I just met you and this is crazy, but here is my number, call me maybe..."

[Mirror Image]

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HAVE YOU GOT TIME FOR A LASS?

Absolutely. As one member said, if (and bear in mind I used the word if) she and I become serious, you probably won't see me on this forum as much.

[Mirror Image]

So I haven't seen her all week and I'm still thinking about her. I sent her a message via Facebook and hope she accepts my request to have coffee. Here's the message I sent her:

Hey Christine,

I sent you a friend request last week I believe and you rejected it and rightfully so, because you probably didn't know who I am. I'm John from Walmart. You know me from the bakery there. Anyway, I hardly see you anymore at work, but I hope you don't mind me messaging you like this. I will be completely honest with you (not that I haven't been honest with you in the past), but I like you and I think about you a lot. You have one of the best personalities I've ever encountered. You have this positive attitude and it really makes me feel a lot better when I see your smile. I wish I could have asked you out that night I saw you shopping at Walmart, but I didn't feel it was the right place to do that. If you would ever like to get coffee so we could talk and get to know each other, then that would great. I also completely understand if you're not interested, but at least I know in my heart I did what I had to do.

Hope to see you soon,


-John

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I had to send this to her because I just couldn't take not being able to see her anymore and I wanted her to know how I felt. Whether she rejects me or not isn't the point of this but rather being completely honest with her, which I'm happy to say that I have been.

[TheGSMoeller]

You never know unless you try, I hope the outcome is positive, good luck, John.


(you will now be getting requests for baked goods instead of recording recommendations  )

[Gurn Blanston]

Absolutely. As one member said, if (and bear in mind I used the word if) she and I become serious, you probably won't see me on this forum as much.

So, are you looking for a John Alden then?  0:)

[Mirror Image]

You never know unless you try, I hope the outcome is positive, good luck, John.


(you will now be getting requests for baked goods instead of recording recommendations  )

Thanks, Greg. I hope things go well, but, like you said, I would never know if I don't ask.

[Mirror Image]

So, are you looking for a John Alden then?  0:)

[Conor71]

Quote from: Mirror Image on Today at 10:38:53 AM

So I haven't see her all week and I'm still thinking about her. I sent her a message via Facebook and hope she accepts my request to have coffee. Here's the message I sent her:

Hey Christine,

I sent you a friend request last week I believe and you rejected it and rightfully so, because you probably didn't know who I am. I'm John from Walmart. You know me from the bakery there. Anyway, I hardly see you anymore at work, but I hope you don't mind me messaging you like this. I will be completely honest with you (not that I haven't been honest with you in the past), but I like you and I think about you a lot. You have one of the best personalities I've ever encountered. You have this positive attitude and it really makes me feel a lot better when I see your smile. I wish I could have asked you out that night I saw you shopping at Walmart, but I didn't feel it was the right place to do that. If you would ever like to get coffee so we could talk and get to know each other, then that would great. I also completely understand if you're not interested, but at least I know in my heart I did what I had to do.

Hope to see you soon,


-John

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I had to send this to her because I just couldn't take not being able to see her anymore and I wanted her to know how I felt. Whether she rejects me or not isn't the point of this but rather being completely honest with her, which I'm happy to say that I have been.

Thats a really sweet message I think - best of luck mate

[Opus106]

Seriously, let's hope that this girl isn't online privacy-conscious.

[Mirror Image]

Thats a really sweet message I think - best of luck mate

Thanks, Conor. I hope I get a response today. It's 8:00 AM here so I doubt she's even up yet. I normally would be in bed myself, but I can't sleep.

[Mirror Image]

Seriously, let's hope that this girl isn't online privacy-conscious.

I don't think she is or else I wouldn't have been able to send her a message through Facebook. I believe Facebook has a setting where they can only receive private messages from friends. I'm not one of her Facebook friends but was able to send the message with no problem.

[CaughtintheGaze]

So I haven't seen her all week and I'm still thinking about her. I sent her a message via Facebook and hope she accepts my request to have coffee. Here's the message I sent her:

Hey Christine,

I sent you a friend request last week I believe and you rejected it and rightfully so, because you probably didn't know who I am. I'm John from Walmart. You know me from the bakery there. Anyway, I hardly see you anymore at work, but I hope you don't mind me messaging you like this. I will be completely honest with you (not that I haven't been honest with you in the past), but I like you and I think about you a lot. You have one of the best personalities I've ever encountered. You have this positive attitude and it really makes me feel a lot better when I see your smile. I wish I could have asked you out that night I saw you shopping at Walmart, but I didn't feel it was the right place to do that. If you would ever like to get coffee so we could talk and get to know each other, then that would great. I also completely understand if you're not interested, but at least I know in my heart I did what I had to do.

Hope to see you soon,


-John

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I had to send this to her because I just couldn't take not being able to see her anymore and I wanted her to know how I felt. Whether she rejects me or not isn't the point of this but rather being completely honest with her, which I'm happy to say that I have been.

What the fuck is this? When did men become such pussies?

[The new erato]

A pinch in the bottom used to work.

[CaughtintheGaze]

A pinch in the bottom used to work.

Well I'd not suggest that route, well I might just to see how it works out, but you know... this crazy notion of actually talking to the woman. Perhaps I've become too old, and men acting so passively is rewarded.