The Dating Thread

[The Six]

No, I don't really want to do the teaching English thing there, and it can be difficult for a foreigner to get any other mind of job there. I'll be going back someday, though.

[ibanezmonster]

No, I don't really want to do the teaching English thing there, and it can be difficult for a foreigner to get any other mind of job there. I'll be going back someday, though.

True, and that's probably the biggest con. Although you can make decent money teaching English in Japan, I'll have my degree in Software Development at the end of this year, and programming as a career can make me way more money.

So probably just best to try it for 6 months to a year (depends on the contract), and if I don't like it, at least try to get a programming job in Japan or just go back to the states if that doesn't work out (and start my programming career in the US). A year there could solve several different things for me at once.

[ibanezmonster]

A year there could solve several different things for me at once.

A year is definitely what I should do. At least.

But what if I taught English there for maybe 3-5 years and decided to work as a programmer? Maybe even in Japan (what if I wanted to stay)? I will have at the very most a year of experience once I graduate, because one of my classes this semester is work for a company, my last semester might involve an internship, and I already have a month of experience for another company. Claiming a year would be a bit of a stretch, but whatever, I'd round up.

The whole problem is the scenario that I could find it hard to find a job if I don't get into the field quick enough. Waiting a year should be no problem. 3-5 years, though...?

[Henk]

Greg, just do ........ something.

[ibanezmonster]

Greg, just do ........ something.

Okay.

[ibanezmonster]

Going back and forth with the English teaching in Japan idea. Will probably take me at least a month to decide, thinking about it every day. Ugh...

[North Star]

Keep learning more Japanese, as knowing Japanese as well as possible certainly helps you to teach Japanese English. I would also recommend learning (even) more about Japanese culture, art & history. Have you read In Praise of Shadows?

[ibanezmonster]

Keep learning more Japanese, as knowing Japanese as well as possible certainly helps you to teach Japanese English. I would also recommend learning (even) more about Japanese culture, art & history. Have you read In Praise of Shadows?

Haven't read it. I'll keep studying regardless, but wouldn't expect to even be near fluent any time soon, despite the fact that I first started studying about 14 years ago.

There's just such a ridiculous number of factors, uncertainties and things to consider. Both options are going to be waaaaaay better than my current situation, so regardless, I win, but it's just a matter of choosing the best option. 10 months until I graduate...

[ibanezmonster]

Okay... probably the very best choice is work in my career here in the US after I graduate for one year and then consider if I still want to do the whole teaching English in Japan experiment. That's the safest plan. By then I'll be 29, so still young, right? (I've heard of certain agencies actually having a cutoff age of 40 for ALT's  ) (then again, if I had the very unlikely and unfortunate situation of not being able to find a job in my field, this will be a backup plan) 

Sorry for continuously bumping up this thread about something off-topic (for the most part), even though it's my own thread. 

[ibanezmonster]

So I'm wondering if there's public places one could perform their own music live- as in, anyone can perform their stuff. The only idea that comes to mind is something like Guitar Center, maybe, but I honestly have no ideas, probably since I don't get to get out much.

Would that be a good way of meeting people? I don't see many opportunities with women in the field I'm going into, and I've considered karate, but I probably couldn't stick with it long-term since I'm not very interested in it.

Of course, I'd have to write the music first. I'm thinking of a half-hour work for me playing guitar solo, backed up by a music recording. Probably prog metal-ish type of style, all instrumental. Of course, there's options such as playing in someone's home (or my future house), but I was wondering where you could do something like that publicly.

[Ken B]

So I'm wondering if there's public places one could perform their own music live- as in, anyone can perform their stuff. The only idea that comes to mind is something like Guitar Center, maybe, but I honestly have no ideas, probably since I don't get to get out much.

Would that be a good way of meeting people? I don't see many opportunities with women in the field I'm going into, and I've considered karate, but I probably couldn't stick with it long-term since I'm not very interested in it.

Of course, I'd have to write the music first. I'm thinking of a half-hour work for me playing guitar solo, backed up by a music recording. Probably prog metal-ish type of style, all instrumental. Of course, there's options such as playing in someone's home (or my future house), but I was wondering where you could do something like that publicly.

Talk to abookstore if there are any left near you. I have seen that sort of thing done.

[ibanezmonster]

Talk to abookstore if there are any left near you. I have seen that sort of thing done.

Good idea. Maybe in the next few years, before they all shut down, in a city environment I can see them allowing that.

Oh yeah... the library, too. Possibly even my local one, in the same room where I went to the piano recital with the pianist playing Mozart and Schubert, me being the only young person among 50+ old people.

I seriously don't understand how people "meet," period. It's like some sort of secret that I'm the only one not aware of.

Hopefully I keep looking younger than I am... there's a girl in my class that sits on the other side of the room, and can't be any older than 20. Pretty much has the ideal look, especially with a cute and innocent looking expression. Sort of like a real life Keiko (the brunette in my avatar). Older women, especially with tons of experience- not so much my style.

[ibanezmonster]

Just realized I never even mentioned on this thread getting asked out by a girl a few months ago.

A girl I worked with used to flirt with me all the time. (And I have to say to girls who complain about getting hit on constantly (with the exception of aggressive instances)): "screw you." Seriously, it's great. Though the old guy I work with doing that to me still is starting to get a bit annoying at this point...

Anyways, we were joking around and she said in some monster voice, "you wanna go out and eat at __?" (don't remember the restaurant). I didn't give a yes or no answer, which is my way of saying no... soon after, she starts officially dating her friend and hasn't been flirting me with since.

I just wasn't into her. I mean, she wasn't ugly (probably at least a 5 in appearance), but... between her weight and her personality, it just wasn't there. The former could be solved by taking her to the gym with me since it's just a tad too much for me but not extremely bad; the latter is more problematic because she acts more like a dude than a girl. So talking to her is great, but those feminine qualities just aren't there. I mean, walking like a guy and then casually burping loudly and saying that you have to take a dump is not attractive for a girl to do IMO.

[ibanezmonster]

So, it appears that the one girl that I was interested in since late last year doesn't care for my goatee. Last night she said that she would think I'm cute it if weren't for the goatee and she couldn't kiss me because of it because it reminds her too much of her dad. Ugh... 

I guess that's the good thing about spending plenty of time alone with a drunk girl: the honesty. Or maybe she's just seeing things.  Talk about a nice but crazy drunk. Good lord... and honestly, I would be a bit scared to date her just because that would mean consistently having to drive my car to her house through this dirt road that is the most insane dirt road I've ever seen. I'm almost terrified just thinking about it, being way too rough on a small car that I don't want destroyed.

But, then again... wondering if shaving the moustache part would be enough. 

[Artem]

Terrifying.

[snyprrr]

So, it appears that the one girl that I was interested in since late last year doesn't care for my goatee. Last night she said that she would think I'm cute it if weren't for the goatee and she couldn't kiss me because of it because it reminds her too much of her dad. Ugh... 

I guess that's the good thing about spending plenty of time alone with a drunk girl: the honesty. Or maybe she's just seeing things.  Talk about a nice but crazy drunk. Good lord... and honestly, I would be a bit scared to date her just because that would mean consistently having to drive my car to her house through this dirt road that is the most insane dirt road I've ever seen. I'm almost terrified just thinking about it, being way too rough on a small car that I don't want destroyed.

But, then again... wondering if shaving the moustache part would be enough. 

Didn't I tell that I met a girl at the Indian restaurant who... turned out to be... a... porn star. Yes. ,... and no,... oy,... almost makes the previous shit seem like chicklets. She looked sooooo innocent, like 'Little House on the Prairie', with a dress, I mean, you just can't believe,... awesome anime breasts,... and then the revelation,...

so, I'm 0-1000 at this point

I mean, yes, we DID have two separate five minute sessions with The Mrs. Batshit,... this girl is reeeally crazy, must apply 'Hit It & Quit It',... though, she's supposed to be an old friend,...

anyhow,

Greg,

The Goatee

ffs, yes, please, understand, It Must Go Now,... yes, men really do need some hair on their face to keep from looking like old lesbians (Lindsay Graham?), but, the current crop on men's styling choices is 'Pussy Around Your Mouth' goatee, or hitpster beard.

Please, Greg, get rid of the vagina around your mouth, Is what the poor dear girl was saying.

MOI- I HAVE A NATURAL GOATEE ALONE- I LOOK GREAT WITH all my natural "beard"- minus the strays- because I have zilch on the sides- yes, I'm very delicate and pretty (with a ravaged teen's scars of course!!)- so, if i don't have my stubs, I look like a girl (I'd fuck me )

OK, five minutes staring at screen looking for point- point is, my 'Clint Eastwood' needs to stay in the Don Johnson range, dirt on my face, and I must scissor trim every day to keep the exact length- if I let it go, out come Gen. Custer!!,... also, I have natural handlebars which I of course disengage,...

So, I HAVE ONE BASIC LOOK, AND MUST KEEP TO IT, just like the guy with the pencil thin moustache, Hitler, Mr. Muttonchop, and anyone who's "Look" is based on a 'Classic' face hair pattern that never wavers (ever seen Clint with a stache?- what about Burt Reynolds WITHOUT??)



So, Greg, DO WHATEVER YON DEAR YOUNG LASS TELLS YOU TO DO- tell her, if you're my girl, you get to choose how I look (as long as I can handle it)- I mean, if you're going to kiss her a lot, and she wants clean shaven, well, then, that's what you do.  RIGHT???

As I recall, you have a basic 'Perp Face' (lolz)- meaning, "General Typical Male"- dark hair, fair/pale skin (I don't mean you're pale)- frat boy look- you have a very narrow window for expressing yourself. HERE ARE MY WORDS OF WISDOM- let you (and maybe with the help of your friend) maybe look through galleries, and agree on the look that best suits your face and your goal/aim, and then maintain it on a daily basis. I like to get a small pair of very sharp scissors. Watch the neck hair!!


I don't know, how silly is all that?


Well, at least you've got a girl commenting of your shit. But, make it known that you'll only change for your gal, and not until she is!!

(I think women really see any form of the modern/egyptian goatee as some kind of hideous vadge- I mean, yukkk - who wants to kiss that shit??)


I just saw an old '70s flick that had a literal porn "insert" for a few seconds, on a lady spreading her labies- a 1970s lady!!!!- yes, the flippin hair is going down the ass cheeks and thighs and this lady had the most horrendously overlit roast beef flaps looking soooo--- ggg---gggg---gg--I just threw up a little in my mouth

anyhow, yea, just look at some '70s porn and you'll be cured right quick....



as far as your junk goes, aye, if you want the Modern Woman going anywhere near that with her FACE - you better make sure it looks like something out of the porn SHE'S seen, post-'90s Porn, yea, you know what that means, doncha buddy!! I'm just gagging uncontrollably thinking about your shit right now, oh yukk, --- fuckin trim that shit up- I can just tell you're a hairy mf ---ohhh ngg ggggg gggg  ----excuse me---


ah, I hope you're as entertained as I am!!


you got back hair, dont ya?










I met a porn star. wow,... and yea, they were tearing her shit riiight up- you bet it gives you the willies- "Hey, my girl's labes and ass look pretty chewed up, why is that?....oh yea"

WHAT IF YOU KNEW YOU WOULD NEVER HAVE SEX AGAIN (BECAUSE NO ONE WOULD DO IT)- what would you do?







well that was depressing










ah, girls

can I bring up yoga pants?

[ibanezmonster]

Terrifying.

Indeed. I terrify myself sometimes.

As I recall, you have a basic 'Perp Face' (lolz)- meaning, "General Typical Male"- dark hair, fair/pale skin (I don't mean you're pale)- frat boy look- you have a very narrow window for expressing yourself. HERE ARE MY WORDS OF WISDOM- let you (and maybe with the help of your friend) maybe look through galleries, and agree on the look that best suits your face and your goal/aim, and then maintain it on a daily basis. I like to get a small pair of very sharp scissors. Watch the neck hair!!

Oh, I've had this same style for years. Very basic goatee, no side or neck hair. Just like this:
http://www.wallpapergremlin.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/Ben-Affleck-New-Goatee-Desktop-Photo.jpg

I'd go from looking metal to looking like a boy band member in a day, but she's the type that would prefer the latter... but that doesn't really matter- matters more what one person thinks, anyways.

(I think women really see any form of the modern/egyptian goatee as some kind of hideous vadge- I mean, yukkk - who wants to kiss that shit??)

Egyptian goatee just sounds ridiculously metal. 

I just saw an old '70s flick that had a literal porn "insert" for a few seconds, on a lady spreading her labies- a 1970s lady!!!!- yes, the flippin hair is going down the ass cheeks and thighs and this lady had the most horrendously overlit roast beef flaps looking soooo--- ggg---gggg---gg--I just threw up a little in my mouth

anyhow, yea, just look at some '70s porn and you'll be cured right quick....

Yeah, ewwww....

as far as your junk goes, aye, if you want the Modern Woman going anywhere near that with her FACE - you better make sure it looks like something out of the porn SHE'S seen, post-'90s Porn, yea, you know what that means, doncha buddy!! I'm just gagging uncontrollably thinking about your shit right now, oh yukk, --- fuckin trim that shit up- I can just tell you're a hairy mf ---ohhh ngg ggggg gggg  ----excuse me---


you got back hair, dont ya?

eh, good on both counts- not sure why you think I look like a werewolf, but whatever 

[Mirror Image]

Older women, especially with tons of experience- not so much my style.

Oh, the irony of this statement. I used to think "older women aren't that attractive," etc. and then I got older.

[Ken B]

Oh, the irony of this statement. I used to think "older women aren't that attractive," etc. and then I got older.

Live and learn. When I was about 22 I read something very wise in  Ross Macdonald novel. "As a man gets older then, if he knows what's good for him, so do the women he finds attractive."

Jodi Foster still turns my crank as far as it can go. 😊

[ibanezmonster]

Oh, the irony of this statement. I used to think "older women aren't that attractive," etc. and then I got older.

I'd gladly show interest in older women once I get older. But my first date is not going to be a 35 year old, that's for sure.
I'll probably always or almost always date a little bit younger in the future. I'll always look over 5 years younger than I am and I'll always be behind the average person a decade in "experience." So considering that, you can see what I mean, right? (The girl I'm talking to is 21 right now, which is perfect IMO).