Schoolgirl crushes

[(poco) Sforzando]

Henk: the best thing to do is try to think about other girls- find some on myspace, try to meet some, eventually the effect will wear off. Girls are like a poison distracting you from the real important aspects of life. 

- Like girls.


Well, here's my current story. A fellow cashier, named Amelia, someone I've been talking to at work about 2? months now. Amazingly, despite being light-skinned and having red hair, I find her quite attractive- more than any other girl I've known for the last 2 years. I think the way she does the dark eye shadow or whatever it's called is really nice, something I've noticed more.

- Amazing indeed. I've never liked redheads myself.

Anyways, at first we were able to talk a lot, but now, I rarely get to talk to her. It's annoying, since I want to ask her for her myspace address and we never have the time to talk anymore- always working in different departments now. In fact, I think they might've moved me somewhere else, though I'd have to check.

- You don't know where they moved you?

My question is: what the heck should I say to lead up to asking for her myspace address (because it's not like I can just say, "hey! btw, what's your myspace address?") lol

- Why not?

I like Paul's policy: let girls come to you, instead of the other way around......

- It depends.

A few things I've noted:

1) when we were selling the $1 shamrock-design donation things that we put up on the wall, she bought one and wrote my name on it (instead of her's) and put hearts all over it. Made me rofl!

- She likes you.

2) one of the first few days when I was talking to her, she said one of the guys who worked in lumber department asked her out, and she said no. So does she like saying "no" in general, or only to that specific person?

- Only to guys who work in lumber.

3) the way she walked by me and touched me and then looked at me last week- was that flirting!?

- Yes it was.

I never flirt, so I don't really know..... then again, i couldn't imagine anyone else doing that.

- Try hanging out with the guys in lumber.

4) the more i stand next to her not talking, the more she wants to start conversations. So I do what's natural- stand there and be silent. 

- Try opening your mouth and asking for her myspace, cell phone number, email, etc.


Lol, if I went out with her, all the guys would be jealous for sure..

- Is that why you want to go out with her, to make her a trophy?

.... but if I don't, strangely enough, I wouldn't feel any loss at all. So I'm not sure if it'd be a crush when it wouldn't bother you much if you never see them again. 

- So do you want to get to know her or not? I think you do, but you're making excuses for not acting, 'cause you don't want to get shot down. But she's been encouraging whether you realize it or not, so all you gotta do is say, "Hey, I haven't seen you much lately and it's hard to get time here at work. Do you want to do something after work, or talk online, or buy some lumber together? Etc.

[greg]

- Amazing indeed. I've never liked redheads myself.

I'll have to get a pic or something- it is wild to like someone out of your "genre" lol.

- You don't know where they moved you?

Lumber...... except I asked to get moved to garden, and they said maybe in a few weeks. So I'm completely confused. We're both cashiers and she works alone (or with other girls) at returns half the time now.

- Only to guys who work in lumber.

- Yes it was.

- She likes you.

ha, really!?

- Is that why you want to go out with her, to make her a trophy?

nah, i shouldn't have that mindset......

- Try hanging out with the guys in lumber.

been working a bit with them the last few days.....
i don't know if that'd help or not, them being even better looking than me 

- So do you want to get to know her or not? I think you do, but you're making excuses for not acting, 'cause you don't want to get shot down. But she's been encouraging whether you realize it or not, so all you gotta do is say, "Hey, I haven't seen you much lately and it's hard to get time here at work. Do you want to do something after work, or talk online, or buy some lumber together? Etc.

I suppose........
i guess the best thing to ask, "why not?"
If I find an answer eventually, oh well. But for now I can't think of a really big reason not to ask her out.

- Try opening your mouth and asking for her myspace, cell phone number, email, etc.

Ok, just thought of it..... I'll phrase it something like this- "Hey, I hardly ever get to see you anymore... we should go out and get some Subways sometime." (where she eats for lunch)

[(poco) Sforzando]

Ok, just thought of it..... I'll phrase it something like this- "Hey, I hardly ever get to see you anymore... we should go out and get some Subways sometime." (where she eats for lunch)

Go for it, loverboy.

[greg]

Go for it, loverboy.

thanks for the encouragement, dude! 

[Henk]

Hi, I have some new thoughts. I know what to do. I'll report later.

[greg]

Hi, I have some new thoughts. I know what to do. I'll report later.

I do, too. But I'll try to use portion control in my updates. If possible. 

So, yeah, I guess I'm going to be working mainly in the lumber department. And to be honest, I REALLY like it there! There's moments where it's just chaos (often due to the fact that I don't know much about the department), but usually it's pretty quiet and I often have, literally 15 or 20 minutes without a customer so I just take out my Japanese dictionary from my pocket and brush up on some vocabulary. So I think I'll mainly stay here........ BUT it seems like they haven't totally abandoned calling me up to the front. So that means I'll still have chances to talk to her, but they'll be very rare.

I've decided that the best way to talk to her is to say something like "what's up etc..... i guess i'm working in lumber all the time now etc..... we should hang out sometime." Just something short.

Probably in a week or two is the next time I could expect to talk to her again, just my best guess.

[Mozart]

I do, too. But I'll try to use portion control in my updates. If possible. 

So, yeah, I guess I'm going to be working mainly in the lumber department. And to be honest, I REALLY like it there! There's moments where it's just chaos (often due to the fact that I don't know much about the department), but usually it's pretty quiet and I often have, literally 15 or 20 minutes without a customer so I just take out my Japanese dictionary from my pocket and brush up on some vocabulary. So I think I'll mainly stay here........ BUT it seems like they haven't totally abandoned calling me up to the front. So that means I'll still have chances to talk to her, but they'll be very rare.

I've decided that the best way to talk to her is to say something like "what's up etc..... i guess i'm working in lumber all the time now etc..... we should hang out sometime." Just something short.

Probably in a week or two is the next time I could expect to talk to her again, just my best guess.

Don't plan the conversation because if it should not happen to go the way you've worked it out in your mind, you'll get stuck. You need to improvise a bit

[Henk]

Oh, I'm sure BBC will have adequate coverage! 

:-) Let's tell about it right now.

I've just composed a message in which I excuse for some really bad things I smsed to her. And I let her know how I think about her argument that we are "too different persons". Also she understood a thing not right and I explain that, because it might be crucial. It's written in PS, in which I finally say the photo she made of me was very bad.

Her argument that we are too different persons makes the crucial problem. I think that then your really not open to love. Feelings of love then will not arise even if you have certain feelings for that other person, who is "too different". I also don't see the practical problem with it, the practical part comes automatically of course. It could also be the case that she wonders if her friends agree with her choice for me. But I doubt that, and don't know if I should write something about it. She said to me she has very different friends. She's maybe afraid of losing her friends (I am a bit excentric).

I show in the message what will happen to me if I come to the conclusion she simply doesn't have any feelings for me. Just to show how I am.

I will not sent the message by myself. That would be too shocking. I hope a certain person will help me in this.
I end my message with "May this message be a spark".

[Varg]

:-) Let's tell about it right now.

I've just composed a message in which I excuse for some really bad things I smsed to her. And I let her know how I think about her argument that we are "too different persons". Also she understood a thing not right and I explain that, because it might be crucial. It's written in PS, in which I finally say the photo she made of me was very bad.

Her argument that we are too different persons makes the crucial problem. I think that then your really not open to love. Feelings of love then will not arise even if you have certain feelings for that other person, who is "too different". I also don't see the practical problem with it, the practical part comes automatically of course. It could also be the case that she wonders if her friends agree with her choice for me. But I doubt that, and don't know if I should write something about it. She said to me she has very different friends. She's maybe afraid of losing her friends (I am a bit excentric).

I show in the message what will happen to me if I come to the conclusion she simply doesn't have any feelings for me. Just to show how I am.

I will not sent the message by myself. That would be too shocking. I hope a certain person will help me in this.
I end my message with "May this message be a spark".

Bad idea, my friend. The only thing you'll achieve with that kind of behavior is to convince her that you're an obsessive, needy and creepy being. For your own sake, let it go.

[greg]

Don't plan the conversation because if it should not happen to go the way you've worked it out in your mind, you'll get stuck. You need to improvise a bit

Oh, of course. I just want it to seem as far as possible from asking someone out, which is what the other guy did. And it's really hard to get a conversation when you finally get to talk to her again, and, whoa, maybe a minute or two to talk without any customers which you have to watch out for every second.

Bad idea, my friend. The only thing you'll achieve with that kind of behavior is to convince her that you're an obsessive, needy and creepy being. For your own sake, let it go.

Exactly.
I know it's a bad thing sometimes to make comparisons, but when I realized that there are some things that are just more important than girls- specifically, music and video games, it just put things into perspective.
What could I live without, if I had to make a choice? The answer is pretty obvious.

So even though I like someone now, I wouldn't feel any loss if I never saw her again. That's because I already know that I have the greatest thing in the world. Unless I lose my sense of sight and/or hearing. Then I'd kill myself instantly since I wouldn't have a reason to live.

Not sure if that helps you or not, Henk..... what do you think, though.

[Henk]

Bad idea, my friend. The only thing you'll achieve with that kind of behavior is to convince her that you're an obsessive, needy and creepy being. For your own sake, let it go.

You're right. Well, I can excuse, and leave the creepy part (show what will happen to me...) out.

[Henk]

Oh, of course. I just want it to seem as far as possible from asking someone out, which is what the other guy did. And it's really hard to get a conversation when you finally get to talk to her again, and, whoa, maybe a minute or two to talk without any customers which you have to watch out for every second.


Exactly.
I know it's a bad thing sometimes to make comparisons, but when I realized that there are some things that are just more important than girls- specifically, music and video games, it just put things into perspective.
What could I live without, if I had to make a choice? The answer is pretty obvious.

So even though I like someone now, I wouldn't feel any loss if I never saw her again. That's because I already know that I have the greatest thing in the world. Unless I lose my sense of sight and/or hearing. Then I'd kill myself instantly since I wouldn't have a reason to live.

Not sure if that helps you or not, Henk..... what do you think, though.

I don't think either that girls are more important. But if you don't have the girl you really like and you can have contact with her in a good way, it's not easy just to give up. You simply don't do that. You don't choose for suffering. That's creepy unhuman.

[greg]

I don't think either that girls are more important. But if you don't have the girl you really like and you can have contact with her in a good way, it's not easy just to give up. You simply don't do that. You don't choose for suffering. That's creepy unhuman.

Well, the divorce rate is about, what 50%? Maybe half the world is unhuman? 

[Henk]

Instead of being creepy, I can show in my message why I'm not creepy. Saying I'm not obsessed by her, that the only thing why I'm not happy with the situation is because of her false argument. That I will have a normal life if she still doesn't want anything.

[Henk]

Well, the divorce rate is about, what 50%? Maybe half the world is unhuman? 

Then you're not interested in the other person anymore.

[MN Dave]

[Henk]

What does this mean, MN Doom? Do you have an explanation or is it more a feeling?

[greg]

Then you're not interested in the other person anymore.

That's realistic; after all, people suck. 

oooooh i like it

[MN Dave]

What does this mean, MN Doom? Do you have an explanation or is it more a feeling?

It's the solution to all your problems.

[Henk]

That's realistic; after all, people suck. 

Why are you after girls then?