More Girl Problems

[Ken B]

Yeah, MI should force her into a Sophie's choice situation. That always works out well.

Sarge

I am surprised at Karl's callousness. Second thoughts can be a bitch; tossing a coin is best.

[Mirror Image]

I've decided not to ask her out. If she said 'yes,' and something developed between us, it would be a long, difficult road for me (and her, too, I imagine) because I don't believe I could ever bring myself to be truly invested in something I'm trying to avoid (i. e. a woman with more than one kid). This said, the other woman I was mentioning last night is definitely 'in my sights' now.

[ZauberdrachenNr.7]

That's the thing...I'd love to get serious with her (if we actually start to date), but the having kids part would really put a damper on things. I guess there's no harm in dating her with no intention of getting serious. Again, I would just hate to lead her on. She seems like a sweet person.

John - that's like not eating bread because you don't like the crust - only you don't even know whether or not you don't like the crust, you only think you might not.  The kids may be fun and interesting and in desperate need of classical music indoctrination.  Nothing comes from avoidance but the same old.  Relationships can be tiresome, frustrating and fruitless; they can also provide the most rewarding (and illuminating) moments of your life.  I say categorically, check it out, there's no obligation. Yet. 

[Mirror Image]

John - that's like not eating bread because you don't like the crust - only you don't even know whether or not you don't like the crust, you only think you might not.  The kids may be fun and interesting and in desperate need of classical music indoctrination.  Nothing comes from avoidance but the same old.  Relationships can be tiresome, frustrating and fruitless; they can also provide the most rewarding (and illuminating) moments of your life.  I say categorically, check it out, there's no obligation. Yet. 

This may sound shallow, and I'm sure many would agree it is, but I don't want to be these kids' 'father-in-law' or anything of the sort. I might like to have a kid, or two, at some point, but I'm not attached to the idea of taking care of someone else's kids, especially if they aren't my own. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so I've simply decided to move onto someone else. Again, I also don't like the idea of leading people on, so I should quit while I'm ahead here and let someone else who wants that kind of life step up to the plate.

[Karl Henning]

So you are not that guy in Verklärte Nacht . . . pity, really.

[ZauberdrachenNr.7]

So you are not that guy in Verklärte Nacht . . . pity, really.

Agree - and he likes that work, sextet version esp. if memory serves. 

[vandermolen]

This may sound shallow, and I'm sure many would agree it is, but I don't want to be these kids' 'father-in-law' or anything of the sort. I might like to have a kid, or two, at some point, but I'm not attached to the idea of taking care of someone else's kids, especially if they aren't my own. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so I've simply decided to move onto someone else. Again, I also don't like the idea of leading people on, so I should quit while I'm ahead here and let someone else who wants that kind of life step up to the plate.

Not wanting to lead her on sounds very admirable. Anyway, she probably didn't like Nielsen so it may have been doomed from the start anyway. 

[Brian]

Not wanting to lead her on sounds very admirable. Anyway, she probably didn't like Nielsen so it may have been doomed from the start anyway. 

I heard she puts Delius on to help with insomnia. 

[Ken B]

Agree - and he likes that work, sextet version esp. if memory serves.

I would be shocked if John preferred the sextet version.
(I would be stunned if Eigenuser did.)

[ZauberdrachenNr.7]

I would be shocked if John preferred the sextet version.
(I would be stunned if Eigenuser did.)

I checked and it was you  who likes the sextet.  Memory does not serve....

[North Star]

I checked and it was you  who likes the sextet.  Memory does not serve....

I thought it was me who likes the sextet.  0:)
Not that I don't also like the orchestrated version.

[Karl Henning]

I thought it was me who likes the sextet.  0:)
Not that I don't also like the orchestrated version.

+1

[Karl Henning]

I heard she puts Delius on to help with insomnia. 

I had some Butterworth on for that t'other night . . . .

[ZauberdrachenNr.7]

I thought it was me who likes the sextet.  0:)
Not that I don't also like the orchestrated version.

OK, all the more reason why YOU should ask the woman in question out for a date! 

[jochanaan]

So, I like this woman at work and I have a suspicion that she likes me as well. The only problem is she has two kids. She just moved to the area from Maine and I'm sure she doesn't know anyone, but I feel like I would be leading her on if I were to become involved with her because I'm not into women who have more than one kid. What should I do?

One kid, two kids, red kids, blue kids (my Dr. Seuss moment for the day)--if she has even one child, you're already getting a "package deal."  She's never going to put you ahead of her children, and you shouldn't want her to.  On the other hand, the best way to the heart of such a woman is through her kids.

[Ken B]

OK, all the more reason why YOU should ask the woman in question out for a date! 

Any women out there who find La Mer dull?

[ZauberdrachenNr.7]

Any women out there who find La Mer dull?

Nope, at least, none worth merrying!

[Karl Henning]

I am surprised at Karl's callousness.

I'm always opening eyes that way.

[Mirror Image]

I heard she puts Delius on to help with insomnia. 

Delius certainly helps my insomnia as well. Not that there's anything wrong with that of course.

[Mirror Image]

One kid, two kids, red kids, blue kids (my Dr. Seuss moment for the day)--if she has even one child, you're already getting a "package deal."  She's never going to put you ahead of her children, and you shouldn't want her to.  On the other hand, the best way to the heart of such a woman is through her kids.

You're certainly right, which is why I've decided not to pursue. I actually saw her walk out the other night with another guy and they were both smiling at each other and seemed to be enjoying each other's company. There's someone out there for everyone. I just have to find the right one for me. Lord knows I've certainly been patient.