Marriage

[Florestan]

Folks, please, weep for me, my freedom is over! 

This Saturday I'll celebrate my civil marriage. (it being, in Romanian legal system, a prerequisite for marrying religiously)

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[Catison]

Good luck.  I just got married this summer.  Its wonderful, and I wish you all the best.

[Florestan]

Good luck.  I just got married this summer.  Its wonderful, and I wish you all the best.

Thank you. Wish you the same. God bless you both!

[Tapio Dmitriyevich]

My best wishes!
My marriage has survived the "verflixte 7. Jahr" (which means something like "bloody 7th year") - in Germany it is said that a marriage is likely to be divorced in the 7th year - I'd say this is an outdated legend, today it may be after 3 years I'm married since 1999.

[Florestan]

My best wishes!
My marriage has survived the "verflixte 7. Jahr" (which means something like "bloody 7th year") - in Germany it is said that a marriage is likely to be divorced in the 7th year - I'd say this is an outdated legend, today it may be after 3 years I'm married since 1999.

Thank you. The same to you.

[Bulldog]

Folks, please, weep for me, my freedom is over! 

This Saturday I'll celebrate my civil marriage. (it being, in Romanian legal system, a prerequisite for marrying religiously)

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I've found that patience, compromise, honesty and respect hold a loving marriage together.  Of course, sexual attraction must also continue.

[Lilas Pastia]

This is perfectly right. I also think that considering the other your equal or even superior to yourself is a very good sign you won't be looking the other way.

In social meetings I've often heard husbands referring to their wives as "she", or "the wife" instead of using her name. It's a subtle sign that "she" is considered a useful but not indispensable accessory to the marriage (or other form of marital arrangement). Not surprisingly I've witnessed divorces or estrangement in all such cases.

[PerfectWagnerite]

In social meetings I've often heard husbands referring to their wives as "she", or "the wife" instead of using her name. It's a subtle sign that "she" is considered a useful but not indispensable accessory to the marriage (or other form of marital arrangement). Not surprisingly I've witnessed divorces or estrangement in all such cases.

Really??? I refer to my wife as "THE WIFE" all the time when talking about her with a third party. It is really more for convenience. Let's face it does anyone else care what your wife's name is.

[orbital]

Folks, please, weep for me, my freedom is over! 

This Saturday I'll celebrate my civil marriage. (it being, in Romanian legal system, a prerequisite for marrying religiously)

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Congratulations!

As for the bold part: in my experience, the trick is to not overrate marriage and continue to introduce one's wife by her name alone rather than 'my wife:'  

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In social meetings I've often heard husbands referring to their wives as "she", or "the wife" instead of using her name. It's a subtle sign that "she" is considered a useful but not indispensable accessory to the marriage (or other form of marital arrangement). Not surprisingly I've witnessed divorces or estrangement in all such cases.

I posted my reply without seeing this, and I agree completely.

[M forever]

Good luck.  I just got married this summer.  Its wonderful, and I wish you all the best.

How old are you, BTW?

[adamdavid80]

Really??? I refer to my wife as "THE WIFE" all the time when talking about her with a third party. It is really more for convenience. Let's face it does anyone else care what your wife's name is.

Sure...the CPA she hired to ruin your returns last year!!!!   

[adamdavid80]

I've found that patience, compromise, honesty and respect hold a loving marriage together.  Of course, sexual attraction must also continue.

The best angle on this I ever heard was, "The true sign of a successful marriage is lots of teethmarks on your tongue."

At 1st I thought it was a sexual reference, but no.  That means whenever the conversation begins to become tense, just bite a little bit on your OWN tongue...what seems so important to impulsively say will quickly fade, and you'll probably be better off for it!!!

Oh, and by the way, as Jesus Christ himself would probably have said....MAZEL TOV!!!!

[adamdavid80]

And this has nothing to do with the topic...but it's the closest I'm getting to getting married...Jeffrey Toobin (of CNN and author of The Nine) and I are now Facebook friends!

http://gizmodo.com/5064282/toobin-caught-checking-facebook-on-cnn-during-debate

[Wanderer]

Folks, please, weep for me, my freedom is over! 

This Saturday I'll celebrate my civil marriage. (it being, in Romanian legal system, a prerequisite for marrying religiously)

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Congratulations, my friend! Η ώρα η καλή και βίον ανθόσπαρτον! 

[Lilas Pastia]

Really??? I refer to my wife as "THE WIFE" all the time when talking about her with a third party. It is really more for convenience. Let's face it does anyone else care what your wife's name is.

I'm glad it does not seem to mean you are demeaning her in any way. In which case I can only infer your manners are in cause, which can always be corrected. Calling her "my wife" when talking to strangers is ok. But "the wife" is vulgar.

You can call Fido "the dog". Nobody will infer anything bad. In case of doubt, you can always ask her. She might be mildly surprised to discover you don't think someone could be interested in her as a human being.

[J.Z. Herrenberg]

Excellent news, Florestan! Congratulations!

[PerfectWagnerite]

I'm glad it does not seem to mean you are demeaning her in any way. In which case I can only infer your manners are in cause, which can always be corrected. Calling her "my wife" when talking to strangers is ok. But "the wife" is vulgar.

I told her I call her "the wife" when referring to her. She doesn't see/hear any negative connotations at all. I used to have a coworker who called his wife the same thing so I thought it was "standard procedure" so to speak.

[Keemun]

This Saturday I'll celebrate my civil marriage. (it being, in Romanian legal system, a prerequisite for marrying religiously)

Congratulations, Florestan! 

[Anne]

Congratulations and best wishes to both of you.

I think some of the most important elements in a marriage are trust and commitment.

My husband used to refer to me as his "better half."  I thought he was a very smart husband!   

When we were having our new house built (that does test the bond!), by the end of the construction we had labled it "Compromise Acres."

He died of a heart attack 2 1/2 years ago.  We had been married 38 years.

[Tapio Dmitriyevich]

In social meetings I've often heard husbands referring to their wives as "she", or "the wife" instead of using her name. It's a subtle sign that "she" is considered a useful but not indispensable accessory to the marriage (or other form of marital arrangement). Not surprisingly I've witnessed divorces or estrangement in all such cases.

Loriot - Eheberatung (Marriage counseling, in german)

"That's it for now. Please practise kissing at home ..." "Before or after the meals?"

BTW I met those couples yesterday. 50% of the couples of a classical concerto