The Dating Thread

[Mirror Image]

wait... whaaat?


hey, don't bogart that vape, maaan!! that must be some good sheeee... (party at John's!!)

Yes, I meant condemns. I didn't take my medication whenever I made that post.

[Ken B]

Yes, I meant condemns. I didn't take my medication whenever I made that post.

Well, I thought you meant condoms.

[Abuelo Igor]

Condone

verb (used with object), condoned, condoning. 

1.

to disregard or overlook (something illegal, objectionable, or the like).

2.

to give tacit approval to:
"By his silence, he seemed to condone their behavior."

3.

to pardon or forgive (an offense); excuse.

4.

to cause the condonation of; justify the pardoning of (an offense).

5.

Law. to forgive or act so as to imply forgiveness of (a violation of the marriage vow).

It seems that John wasn't as far off the mark as it seemed...

[Mirror Image]

Okay, so any news Greg?

[Mirror Image]

I don't have much to add. I met a few women online and nothing ever materialized, although I met a woman that's interesting but she is 11 years younger than I am and she lives about an hour away. I know the distance thing isn't something to get my undies in a wad about, but the age thing....I just don't know. She seemed to be really into what I was saying, but I have to admit I was being a flake to her when I asked her if our age differences bothered her and she said no and then I said it didn't bother me either only to, within 12 hours, tell her that our age differences does actually bother me. There are just two many red flags if I pursued this woman: 1. she lives in a dormitory (even though she's soon to graduate), 2. she's too young, and 3. the driving distance. Do you guys think I'm being ridiculous?

[ibanezmonster]

Okay, so any news Greg?

Ummm... don't expect any.

I don't have much to add. I met a few women online and nothing ever materialized, although I met a woman that's interesting but she is 11 years younger than I am and she lives about an hour away. I know the distance thing isn't something to get my undies in a wad about, but the age thing....I just don't know. She seemed to be really into what I was saying, but I have to admit I was being a flake to her when I asked her if our age differences bothered her and she said no and then I said it didn't bother me either only to, within 12 hours, tell her that our age differences does actually bother me. There are just two many red flags if I pursued this woman: 1. she lives in a dormitory (even though she's soon to graduate), 2. she's too young, and 3. the driving distance. Do you guys think I'm being ridiculous?

IMO about the age difference, I wouldn't see it as a problem if I were your age. (At my age, 11 years would mean someone that is 16, so that wouldn't work).  Seriously, though, unless she is totally immature I don't see the problem. I probably wouldn't be interested in anyone 15 years younger than me in the future, so I understand that's a bit questionable, though.

[Mirror Image]

Ummm... don't expect any.

IMO about the age difference, I wouldn't see it as a problem if I were your age. (At my age, 11 years would mean someone that is 16, so that wouldn't work).  Seriously, though, unless she is totally immature I don't see the problem. I probably wouldn't be interested in anyone 15 years younger than me in the future, so I understand that's a bit questionable, though.

I could probably get over the age thing. I mean she's beautiful, intelligent, and seems like she knows what she wants. As for the driving distance, that's still a hinderance to me and the fact that she lives in a dormitory isn't exactly hitting all the right spots. Plus, I live in a college town, I should be able to find a woman, it's just going to take more time. There are a lot of women here.

[Ken B]

I don't have much to add. I met a few women online and nothing ever materialized, although I met a woman that's interesting but she is 11 years younger than I am and she lives about an hour away. I know the distance thing isn't something to get my undies in a wad about, but the age thing....I just don't know. She seemed to be really into what I was saying, but I have to admit I was being a flake to her when I asked her if our age differences bothered her and she said no and then I said it didn't bother me either only to, within 12 hours, tell her that our age differences does actually bother me. There are just two many red flags if I pursued this woman: 1. she lives in a dormitory (even though she's soon to graduate), 2. she's too young, and 3. the driving distance. Do you guys think I'm being ridiculous?

No. When I was your age the same thing bothered me about a woman. It's not just 11 years. It's 11 years, being under about 25, and her having being only a student.

[Mirror Image]

No. When I was your age the same thing bothered me about a woman. It's not just 11 years. It's 11 years, being under about 25, and her having being only a student.

I'll be 12 years older than her in March, so, yes, I agree with you. I just can't get onboard with the whole idea of dating someone this much younger than me.

Here's what I wrote to her last week:

Avery, I'm going to have to be honest with you, I don't think I can date you for the following reasons:

1. You live in Marietta which is just too far for me to drive.

2. You're only 21 years old and I have thought about the age thing considerably but both of us are at two different stages in our lives and, on this basis, we wouldn't have much in common.

3. You're about to embark on a completely new life for yourself whenever you graduate college and I'm already settled down and pretty much set in my ways about many things.

All of this said, you seem like a really nice person and you're certainly easy to talk to but I'm just not going to right be for you.

All the best to you and good luck to you in whatever direction you go,



John

[Sergeant Rock]

It's not just 11 years. It's 11 years, being under about 25, and her having being only a student.

I'll be 12 years older than her in March, so, yes, I agree with you. I just can't get onboard with the whole idea of dating someone this much younger than me.

Mrs. Rock was a student, 9 years younger, and living with her parents when I met her...but the relationship worked out just fine. Age difference need not be an obstacle. The bigger problem, it seems to me, is the physical distance between you and the woman.

Sarge

[Mirror Image]

Mrs. Rock was a student, 9 years younger, and living with her parents when I met her...but the relationship worked out just fine. Age difference need not be an obstacle. The bigger problem, it seems to me, is the physical distance between you and the woman.

Sarge

Yeah, I could probably eventually deal with the age problem, but I think 11 years is just too large of a gap. I'm currently talking to a woman that is only 7 years younger than me and she doesn't live too far away (maybe 30 minutes). You're lucky to have found Mrs. Rock. I hope I'm as fortunate as you are in the future.

[snyprrr]

Why isn't anyone asking ME if any Drama has surfaced recently? I'm offended.


Dec.1 was the last day I saw the woman I had fallen for, when she literally 'dismissed' me in front of her new guy (remember, she had a useless drunk bf at home,- always needed a male 'escort' around to make her feel good about herself). So, I had been healing over the flippin' miserable (again) flippin' holidays, when,...

DRUMROLL PLEEEASE!!

i GOT THIS EMAIL AT 12;30am the other night...


(stay tuned for the lolz, you will not be disappointed!!)

[Sergeant Rock]

Why isn't anyone asking ME if any Drama has surfaced recently? I'm offended.

We have to ask? Your life is a daily drama 

Sarge

[ibanezmonster]

Dec.1 was the last day I saw the woman I had fallen for,

You still "fall for" people? Like a crush or something? Aren't you like in your 40's or something?

Idk, the last time I actually had a genuine "crush" was at the end of high school, back in '06. I've definitely had a few girls that I was interested in since I thought they were attractive, but I wouldn't say they were crushes (or at the most, very minor crushes, though I wouldn't even give that status to the last one I was interested in). Probably a good time to ask older people (who haven't been married forever): do you still get crushes? (I think I've grown out of that by now...)

[Mirror Image]

You still "fall for" people? Like a crush or something? Aren't you like in your 40's or something?

Idk, the last time I actually had a genuine "crush" was at the end of high school, back in '06. I've definitely had a few girls that I was interested in since I thought they were attractive, but I wouldn't say they were crushes (or at the most, very minor crushes, though I wouldn't even give that status to the last one I was interested in). Probably a good time to ask older people (who haven't been married forever): do you still get crushes? (I think I've grown out of that by now...)

Sure, I have a new crush every week. You're never too old to have a crush on a woman, especially if she emits such radiant beauty.

[ZauberdrachenNr.7]

Sure, I have a new crush every week. You're never too old to have a crush on a woman, especially if she emits such radiant beauty.

Radiant Beauty comes in various forms I hasten to add, not only physical.  Had crushes up through my fifties...with decreasing frequency, but that could have been because of increased work responsibilities and fewer social contacts. I think they are healthy psychological phenomena - if one is not subject to them I suspect that it may indicate insufficient social engagement or possibly a negative and self-defeating attitude about potential outcomes. 

[ZauberdrachenNr.7]

I don't have much to add. I met a few women online and nothing ever materialized, although I met a woman that's interesting but she is 11 years younger than I am and she lives about an hour away. I know the distance thing isn't something to get my undies in a wad about, but the age thing....I just don't know. She seemed to be really into what I was saying, but I have to admit I was being a flake to her when I asked her if our age differences bothered her and she said no and then I said it didn't bother me either only to, within 12 hours, tell her that our age differences does actually bother me. There are just two many red flags if I pursued this woman: 1. she lives in a dormitory (even though she's soon to graduate), 2. she's too young, and 3. the driving distance. Do you guys think I'm being ridiculous?

To answer your question: yes.

[snyprrr]

We have to ask? Your life is a daily drama 

Sarge

Here's the email i received Thurs 12:30am: (complete AS WRITTEN)



have some balls
Ben, I've done this to most of the men in my life. You were another casualty in my wake. Let's call it collateral damage. But don't feel bad cause your DEFINITELY not the first, and probably not the last. Eventually, the true person comes out in me, that's when I drink WAY TOO MUCH and into a black-out and I don't realize I'm throwing myself at everyone because it makes me feel important. Shit, I got some retard at home thinking that I ever cared about him and told him the same, want to be friends.  no, I haven't told him yet even though he's going for reconstructive shoulder surgery in two day. Anyway, quick remark I never hit the send but I'm doing it now.[/color]


This email was supposedly written on Dec.1, after the last time I saw her- when I was "dismissed" in front of her newest guy- as a response to my email that same night where I whined like a little bitch about being dismissed. (BTW- I assumed that the last part was written Thurs., appended to the email that apparently sat in her box for a month. WHY DID SHE SEND IT THURS.?? WHY WAIT A MONTHY??)


SO, CAN YOU GUY WHAT REALLY HAPPENED? (Yes, I must laugh at my own pain here) GO AHEAD, GUESSS,... I'LL BE BACH LATER...

[Mirror Image]

Radiant Beauty comes in various forms I hasten to add, not only physical.  Had crushes up through my fifties...with decreasing frequency, but that could have been because of increased work responsibilities and fewer social contacts. I think they are healthy psychological phenomena - if one is not subject to them I suspect that it may indicate insufficient social engagement or possibly a negative and self-defeating attitude about potential outcomes.

Agree with you here, Zauber. They don't really mean anything as infatuations come and go. What matters is what is concrete and meaningful: getting to know the person behind the beauty.

[Mirror Image]

To answer your question: yes.

Interesting! Why do you feel this way? I'm not opposed to someone making sense, because I certainly can't count on myself in this department.