So I Like This Woman At Work...

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I was born and raised in the Georgia and while there's a lot of countryside to be found here, there are also large metropolitian areas to be found as well. I get sick and tired of the typical Southern stereotype that we're all toothless and marry our sisters. I mean people who make these comments never been to the South before. There's a warmth down here in the people and time definitely seems to irrelevant. Today is the first day of autumn and it's absolutely gorgeous outside. Clear skies and nice little breeze. This is beautiful state I live in.

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Back to John's situation...one word, confidence. Don't be concerned about whether she finds you boring or not, enjoy what you interests you. Be confident in your life choices, and someone down the line will appreciate that and find it attractive, whether it's your female co-worker or another. Because if she finds you boring based on your interests, then she may not be the one for you.

Thanks for the kind words, Greg.

[madaboutmahler]

Well, best of luck to you, John. I'm sure you'll find someone! I used to lack an awful amount of confidence, but luckily I have had some really good friends to help me gain some. That's what we'll need to do with you!

If you join a local music group, or amateur orchestra or something like that, not only are you more likely to meet a woman who would be kind and wonderful, but also interested in exactly the same things as you.

[DavidW]

Do people "date" in the rural South? "Hey babe I live at the end of the dirt road, let's meet at Waffle House some time."

Same could be said for Chicago!  Hey babe I live at the end of a dirty alley, let's meet under the bridge and shoot up...

[DavidW]

but it can be tough to find companionship — especially if you're not a churchgoing, get-married-and-have-kids type.

That was my experience in rural Oklahoma.  btw where MI lives (I drove through it on my move) is not rural at all!

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Well, best of luck to you, John. I'm sure you'll find someone! I used to lack an awful amount of confidence, but luckily I have had some really good friends to help me gain some. That's what we'll need to do with you!

If you join a local music group, or amateur orchestra or something like that, not only are you more likely to meet a woman who would be kind and wonderful, but also interested in exactly the same things as you.

Thanks, Daniel. It's good to see you've gained much more confidence in yourself.

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Since this thread pretty much reads like a personal diary, I figured I would take the time and share a little story with you guys today.

Today, my Mom and I drove down to the Mall of Georgia and she dropped me off at a used CD store I frequent. Anyway, I know a few of the guys that work there and they know me as "the classical guy who always buys their classical blurays." A customer came in and apparently he and I are the only ones who buy these classical blurays they get in. This customer looked like he was in his late 70s and he was from either South Korea, Japan, or China. Anyway, he was talking to one of the guys that works there and I was ease-dropping on their conversation. He mentioned the name Schoenberg in the conversation and I just couldn't take it any longer and so I introduced myself to him. We ended up talking for 30 minutes! This man was in fact an 81 year old Korean physics professor who taught at Ohio State University and retired in Atlanta. We talked about the state classical music is in, the future of classical music, and about a lot of composers: Shostakovich, Prokofiev, Bartok, Schoenberg, Berg, Wagner, and one he didn't think I knew: Isang Yun. This man was so surprised I even knew who he was and his eyes lit up like a Christmas tree when I mentioned Yun's name. He said I was the only American classical listener that he has ever spoke with that knew Yun's work and history. This man shook my hand at least three times, he was so humble, kind, and I was saddened that our conversation had to end but he had to pick-up his wife. He went up to the counter to buy two blurays he had on hold and told the two guys behind the counter that I was one of the most knowledgeable people about classical music that he's ever met. We both waved goodbye to each other as he left. I suppose this will be the last time I ever see him, but what a great conversation we had and talking to him was such a refreshing experience. This really meant a lot to me today and I had a tear in my eye on the way home. Music has given this man so much happiness and fulfillment and I started to think about the power that music has over people. I also started to think about what music has meant to me. God bless that man. What a great day!

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Since this thread pretty much reads like a personal diary, I figured I would take the time and share a little story with you guys today.

Today, my Mom and I drove down to the Mall of Georgia and she dropped me off at a used CD store I frequent. Anyway, I know a few of the guys that work there and they know me as "the classical guy who always buys their classical blurays." A customer came in and apparently he and I are the only ones who buy these classical blurays they get in. This customer looked like he was in his late 70s and he was from either South Korea, Japan, or China. Anyway, he was talking to one of the guys that works there and I was ease-dropping on their conversation. He mentioned the name Schoenberg in the conversation and I just couldn't take it any longer and so I introduced myself to him. We ended up talking for 30 minutes! This man was in fact an 81 year old Korean physics professor who taught at Ohio State University and retired in Atlanta. We talked about the state classical music is in, the future of classical music, and about a lot of composers: Shostakovich, Prokofiev, Bartok, Schoenberg, Berg, Wagner, and one he didn't think I knew: Isang Yun. This man was so surprised I even knew who he was and his eyes lit up like a Christmas tree when I mentioned Yun's name. He said I was the only American classical listener that he has ever spoke with that knew Yun's work and history. This man shook my hand at least three times, he was so humble, kind, and I was saddened that our conversation had to end but he had to pick-up his wife. He went up to the counter to buy two blurays he had on hold and told the two guys behind the counter that I was one of the most knowledgeable people about classical music that he's ever met. We both waved goodbye to each other as he left. I suppose this will be the last time I ever see him, but what a great conversation we had and talking to him was such a refreshing experience. This really meant a lot to me today and I had a tear in my eye on the way home. Music has given this man so much happiness and fulfillment and I started to think about the power that music has over people. I also started to think about what music has meant to me. God bless that man. What a great day!

You should ask him out for coffee...

Just kidding. That's a great story, MI, thanks for sharing it.

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You should ask him out for coffee...

Just kidding. That's a great story, MI, thanks for sharing it.

My pleasure. Thanks for reading it.

[ibanezmonster]

Since this thread pretty much reads like a personal diary, I figured I would take the time and share a little story with you guys today.

It is nice to meet people who actually know about classical music in real life. The only people I've known who ever listen to classical only know a little bit- maybe some Wagner, Bach, etc. but not a comprehensive knowledge like a lot of people on this forum, and only one of them actually seemed interested in hearing different composers.

Same could be said for Chicago!  Hey babe I live at the end of a dirty alley, let's meet under the bridge and shoot up...

I haven't been on a date in probably 5 years, so yeah, I do get lonely from time to time, but there just haven't been any women that have caught my eye. I mean I see hot women all day long at work, but I get the sense that there's just so much surface there and not enough depth. I like women who aren't into themselves and their looks and who are modest and don't come across as stuck-up or have some kind of superiority complex.

5 years is nothing, but I know what you mean about the depth thing.

For some reason that brought to mind the time me and a girl I work with were pulling out of the parking lot and our cars were almost touching, head-on, while we sat there for an entire minute beeping our horns. 

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It is nice to meet people who actually know about classical music in real life. The only people I've known who ever listen to classical only know a little bit- maybe some Wagner, Bach, etc. but not a comprehensive knowledge like a lot of people on this forum, and only one of them actually seemed interested in hearing different composers.

This was actually the person I met face-to-face that was incredibly informed and passionate about classical music. A nice surprise today for sure.

5 years is nothing, but I know what you mean about the depth thing.

Five years is a long time for me! I used to date a lot more when I was in my early twenties, but I'm still optimistic about meeting a woman.

For some reason that brought to mind the time me and a girl I work with were pulling out of the parking lot and our cars were almost touching, head-on, while we sat there for an entire minute beeping our horns. 

WTF, Greg? Was this a girl you liked?

[CaughtintheGaze]

Okay, here's an update: I sent her a friend request, she accepted. I'm just going to treat her like a friend. Nothing more. Facebook reveals a little too much about people. Thankfully, when she views my page, she'll see that I'm as boring as unbuttered toast and is obsessed with classical music and will probably not want much to do with me. I've already forseen what will happen: we will speak to each other in passing, maybe leave a note on each's wall, and the friendship will become stagnant and we'll probably end up deleting each other and will probably say hello in passing just to avoid any akwardness. She'll find somebody and I'll remain alone. The end.

Thanks for proving my point. God this thread turned even more pathetic. I didn't even think that was possible.

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Thanks for proving my point. God this thread turned even more pathetic. I didn't even think that was possible.

Yet another vile post from the master of thread pollution.

[DavidW]

I have a feeling that my Father personally knows the retired physicist you met at the store... because my Father did his graduate work in Physical Chemistry at Ohio State.  But then again at Penn State I don't think I met a chem professor once!  These big ten universities are gigantic.

[madaboutmahler]

That's an absolutely wonderful story, John! Thank you for sharing with us.

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I have a feeling that my Father personally knows the retired physicist you met at the store... because my Father did his graduate work in Physical Chemistry at Ohio State.  But then again at Penn State I don't think I met a chem professor once!  These big ten universities are gigantic.

Most interesting.

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That's an absolutely wonderful story, John! Thank you for sharing with us.

My pleasure, Daniel. I'm happy you enjoyed it.

[ibanezmonster]

WTF, Greg? Was this a girl you liked?

This was a while ago, but yeah, I've asked her out twice. Now she's in the military and engaged to one of the guys I work with after breaking up twice with him over the last few years... I was never crazy about her, but she was cute and sent me confusing messages, so why not?

What was very strange was asking me, of all people, for relationship advice when they were fighting. Completely wtf... never understood that.

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This was a while ago, but yeah, I've asked her out twice. Now she's in the military and engaged to one of the guys I work with after breaking up twice with him over the last few years... I was never crazy about her, but she was cute and sent me confusing messages, so why not?

What was very strange was asking me, of all people, for relationship advice when they were fighting. Completely wtf... never understood that.

Yeah, I hate being in the "friend zone," especially if I like the girl. That's just an uncomfortable position to be in.

[CriticalI]

Should've asked Korean professor if he had a daughter/granddaughter going spare.

What the fuck is this? When did men become such pussies?

YOU! WOMAN! PANTS OFF! NOW!

Is that how you do it?