The Dating Thread

[ibanezmonster]

No. Scary huh?

I would find it scary if I weren't used to snyprrr. 

[snyprrr]

No. Scary huh?

so... you actually READ the Post? Are you going to believe eeeeverything I say??? at 3am? on a Friday?


"I must've been in a blackout" was my old gfs favourite saying!!!... uh, when baaaad things happened.

I would find it scary if I weren't used to snyprrr. 

looks like I'm gonna have to whip out the NLP cheat sheet and do some change up... hmmm...

Have you ever heard R. Kelly's 'Feelin' on Yo Booty'?

[ibanezmonster]

Have you ever heard R. Kelly's 'Feelin' on Yo Booty'?

Thankfully, I don't think I have.

[Mirror Image]

Yeah, it's not realistic. I was just thinking about the question in this thread I got earlier about the ideal woman for me. I just hate the fact that I'm left targeting girls solely because they seem cute, rather than having stuff in common as well.

Well, I know for me, physical attraction happens first and then it's time to dig into their mind and if they're shallow or whatever than I know it's not going to work. I probably wouldn't be any fun for her either, but if I can find a woman I can actually have an intelligent conversation with and also be attracted to physically then that's all I need to go on. Of course, she has to feel the same way I do as it takes two to tango.

[ibanezmonster]

Well, I know for me, physical attraction happens first and then it's time to dig into their mind and if they're shallow or whatever than I know it's not going to work. I probably wouldn't be any fun for her either, but if I can find a woman I can actually have an intelligent conversation with and also be attracted to physically then that's all I need to go on. Of course, she has to feel the same way I do as it takes two to tango.

Oh, and they have to be single (unless you want to steal them away from their boyfriend or husband).

So... single- 5% chance (in my experience),
single and just attractive enough- ~2% chance,
single and just attractive enough and interesting/intelligent and nice/bearable- <1% chance.

So you have to know well over a hundred women to potentially go on a date. Unless you go out and meet people, it'll take many years at work. If you work in IT, the odds will be infinitely small meeting someone in the workplace. If you don't go out somewhere to meet people, you'll be too old to date.

[Mirror Image]

Oh, and they have to be single (unless you want to steal them away from their boyfriend or husband).

Well the being 'single' part is bloody obvious.

[ibanezmonster]

Well the being 'single' part is bloody obvious.

Probably better to only consider non-married important, though.

Out of the 3 girls I asked out the last 8 years, only the one I asked out recently was not single. The second she became single, other guys were trying to start hanging out with her (less than a week after). The other day I overheard her say she is "talking to someone." Probably someone that actually has something in common with her, unlike me. So that's what, a 2 month opening lol?

I don't like asking out girls who are dating someone, but if you look at my percentages that I wrote and change single to not married, you get quite higher than a 5% chance to start with. And that brings up the odds of finding someone who is "just attractive enough and interesting/intelligent and nice/bearable..."

[Rinaldo]

...but if you look at my percentages that I wrote...

...you see a guy who's obsessed with reasoning himself into not dating anyone at all.

Pardon my French, but life & love skullfucks your percentages. You never know who you might meet and fall for.

[Mirror Image]

Probably better to only consider non-married important, though.

Out of the 3 girls I asked out the last 8 years, only the one I asked out recently was not single. The second she became single, other guys were trying to start hanging out with her (less than a week after). The other day I overheard her say she is "talking to someone." Probably someone that actually has something in common with her, unlike me. So that's what, a 2 month opening lol?

I don't like asking out girls who are dating someone, but if you look at my percentages that I wrote and change single to not married, you get quite higher than a 5% chance to start with. And that brings up the odds of finding someone who is "just attractive enough and interesting/intelligent and nice/bearable..."

The only thing I can gather from your ongoing posts in this thread, Greg, is that you're making mountains out of molehills. If there are no women of interest in your current town/city, then you go to the next town/city to look. It's that simple. You've just complicated matters for yourself with this constant analyzation of what you're doing wrong, what you're looking for, how you've failed in the past, etc. No one has had complete success with everything. My suggestion would be quit complicating things and just enjoy your life.

[snyprrr]

...you see a guy who's obsessed with reasoning himself into not dating anyone at all.

Pardon my French, but life & love skullfucks your percentages. You never know who you might meet and fall for.

HE LIVES IN FLORIDA, home of the

1) Newlywed

2) Nearly Dead

3) Coke Head


There are no women in Florida for Greg, I reckon. I'm thinking Minnesota, Washington...


Greg, WE are your 'girlfriend',... don't ya get it? "Women for babies, men for pleasure"- WE are your everything. WE are the ones who have something in common with you. "She" is there for your primal need for progeny...


If I may, try not fapping for a while. Maybe God feels that as long as you're your own gf, you don't need a real one to work it for you?




As I see it, Greg, you've got the Gaming and Anime working against you. Can you take a CLASS, or some Karate, or - gulp- yoga,... just something that puts you in the SAME ROOM with a wide selection of potential vict... errrr.... partners?



You still haven't looked into Ryan Gosling, have you?

And you NEED to look at some pics of Kat Dennings, just to cheer you up!!



Think about this for a second: in this day and age, what pretty girl would willingly go to church? None, that's correct. If there is a single girl in a church, it's either a) her last place of refuge in a cold cold world, or, b) she made a mistake and won't be there long.

So, if she's with you, and at some time finds out about your Anime addiction, well, Anime to girls is probably like going to church (same with Death Metal), so, you see, you really have to find SOME way or bridging this gap---

ahhh, I mean, do I reeeally expect to find a Woman who likes Xenakis. Come on... that's just ridiculous. Most of you don't even like Xenakis. Xenakis is JUST FOR ME, and me alone. I CHERISH ANYONE who Posts in the Xenakis Thread and loves Xenakis like I do. JUST looove Petrarch and someguy and AND crcULVER james and all you others who must be just as ________ as I am. THERE AAARE NO OTHERS. Thes "friends of Xenakis" ARE my lot- and I'm sure none of them is some hot chick in disguise!!

"Girls" are NOT for discussing rocket science with, can we just get that straight? Great if you found TheOne, but please to flame me on this point, you just KNOW it's the Truth.



Greg, do you have a Best Friend?  I'm feeling that you don't. I have best friends still from my youth and I can talk about what I need to with them,... but, of course, none of them for Xenakis. I had to get 'keyboard friends' for that.

I ACTUALLY CONSIDER THE WHOLE LOT OF YOU MY "FRIENDS"- though, haha, I know I make it hard on you all!!

I mean, fuuu,... guys here - even if they're pissed at me- will fuckin answer my stupid questions, usually no-matter-what. I have AT LEAST an 85% Satisfavction Rating for GMG and me. That may be higher than in real life!!


I spent my whole life trying to find that 'soul mate' thing. I HAD THE WRONG IDEA ABOUT WHAT THAT WAS.

Whatever else, my 'soul mate' needs to be there on a cold, wintry night, for warmth and comfort, and Xenakis has nothing to do with that.




Xenakis (or, any nerdy endeavour), or womanly affection--- if one had to go, guess which one?

Will you pick the hexachord, or the hessa-boom-boom???






ANCIENT SHOGUN TEST:

The father lays out a big colourful ball, and a sword. He sees to which one his infant son will crawl to. If the son crawls to the ball, he will get his head chopped off. It's between the ball and the sword, Greg, ball and sword... 'games' or 'life'.







wish i had a better grasp of the function of paragraphs!!!!

[jochanaan]

The ideal girlfriend would be my above-mentioned friend in the body of a cute girl....

Try hanging out with her yourself, and after a while you just might be amazed at how cute she gets.  That's the way life works, my young friend, and the sooner you stop chasing the "ideal" and look around you with open eyes, the sooner you may find that your dream girl is right in front of you.  And remember, "love covers over a multitude of sins." (I Peter 4:8, NIV)

[snyprrr]

Try hanging out with her yourself, and after a while you just might be amazed at how cute she gets.  That's the way life works, my young friend, and the sooner you stop chasing the "ideal" and look around you with open eyes, the sooner you may find that your dream girl is right in front of you.  And remember, "love covers over a multitude of sins." (I Peter 4:8, NIV)

so do baggy clothes!!

Greg, joch here has a bunch of ugly sisters he's trying to set you up with- keep an eye on him!!!



However, I have had that experience of seeing someone familiar in a brand new light, and yes, that's always an incredible feeling. I didn't even know she was cute, until I SAW it on the inside.

[jochanaan]

Greg, joch here has a bunch of ugly sisters he's trying to set you up with- keep an eye on him!!!

Not at all.  (One of my sisters is happily married, the other has taken a vow of celibacy.)  My only interest here is Greg's happiness and how his chances for it are lessened by idealistic expectations.  And truly, snyprrr, sometimes I wonder about you...

[ibanezmonster]

The only thing I can gather from your ongoing posts in this thread, Greg, is that you're making mountains out of molehills. If there are no women of interest in your current town/city, then you go to the next town/city to look. It's that simple.

Yeah, like I said, that's what I plan to do when I can.

Greg, WE are your 'girlfriend',... don't ya get it? "Women for babies, men for pleasure"- WE are your everything. WE are the ones who have something in common with you. "She" is there for your primal need for progeny...

True. I guess it's too much to expect to have something in common with a person you're going to spend more time with than anyone else.

As I see it, Greg, you've got the Gaming and Anime working against you. Can you take a CLASS, or some Karate, or - gulp- yoga,... just something that puts you in the SAME ROOM with a wide selection of potential vict... errrr.... partners?

Karate and cooking, eventually...
once I finish school. And hopefully not working 70 hours a week in a room of only guys- after gym time and such, that wouldn't be possible.

Think about this for a second: in this day and age, what pretty girl would willingly go to church? None, that's correct. If there is a single girl in a church, it's either a) her last place of refuge in a cold cold world, or, b) she made a mistake and won't be there long.

Sounds like you don't ever go to church?

So, if she's with you, and at some time finds out about your Anime addiction, well, Anime to girls is probably like going to church (same with Death Metal), so, you see, you really have to find SOME way or bridging this gap---

My interests are too masculine, I've realized that. So is there any really common thing that brings women and men together besides alcohol? And if you don't drink, start drinking?

Some girls like anime, but it's kinda like the same lopsided male to female ratio. Finding a girl gamer is not hard, though- not that I'd consider myself a gamer, but I do like talking about games. Games has pretty much been the only common interest I've shared with girls that were friends, other than one friend I knew in high school who liked anime. Oh, and I currently know a lady who loves anime, but she's a 40+ year old married lady with kids, not a 20-something single girl.

Greg, do you have a Best Friend?  I'm feeling that you don't. I have best friends still from my youth and I can talk about what I need to with them,... but, of course, none of them for Xenakis. I had to get 'keyboard friends' for that.

I spent my whole life trying to find that 'soul mate' thing. I HAD THE WRONG IDEA ABOUT WHAT THAT WAS.

Right now, I have two best friends.  One is the guy I mentioned earlier and he really thought some of the Xenakis I let him listen to sounded cool- Mycanae Alpha. He also really liked The Rite of Spring.

The 'soul mate' idea is retarded. Only you can be your own soul mate. And even then, some people hate themselves.

You never know who you might meet and fall for.

It's nice that that happens to other people. They're just living their life and suddenly they just happen to meet someone who is single and they have a connection with them and decide to date. I'm just confused how this even happens because it's almost a rule that no girl is single, ever.  I could imagine this advice making sense when I was in high school, but I'm exactly 2 months away from turning 27 and, uhhh... 

[jochanaan]

...It's nice that that happens to other people. They're just living their life and suddenly they just happen to meet someone who is single and they have a connection with them and decide to date. I'm just confused how this even happens because it's almost a rule that no girl is single, ever.  I could imagine this advice making sense when I was in high school, but I'm exactly 2 months away from turning 27 and, uhhh... 

Patience, my young friend, patience.  I was almost 30 before I got married the first time.  (The less said about that marriage, the better!)  And as I've said, just about the time I give up on a dream, it walks up and kisses me and becomes real. Not saying it will definitely happen to you, you understand... But I do want to emphasize, again, that it's better to be single all your life than to be married to the wrong person. Again: patience.

[Ken B]

Patience, my young friend, patience.  I was almost 30 before I got married the first time.  (The less said about that marriage, the better!)  And as I've said, just about the time I give up on a dream, it walks up and kisses me and becomes real. Not saying it will definitely happen to you, you understand... But I do want to emphasize, again, that it's better to be single all your life than to be married to the wrong person. Again: patience.

Yes. Make the effort to get laid occassionally, worry more about your interests, and don't assess every woman you meet (more than you can help  ) on some imaginary scale. And then be patient.

[Karl Henning]

Patience, my young friend, patience.  I was almost 30 before I got married the first time.  (The less said about that marriage, the better!)

I am alive to how fortunate I am to get it right the first time . . . .

[snyprrr]

Not at all.  (One of my sisters is happily married, the other has taken a vow of celibacy.)  My only interest here is Greg's happiness and how his chances for it are lessened by idealistic expectations.  And truly, snyprrr, sometimes I wonder about you...

ohhhh, just teeeasing you my good man---- Ripper and Mandrake, Ripper and Mandrake!!



never wonder about me- always chuckle!! My only main intended goal here at GMG is your morning coffee bursting oton your monitor!! (except, of course, when it's not!!)



it's just that I feel like you're trying to turn Greg Dutch- he lives in Florida, it won't work there!!

start drinking?

YES GREG, You have now Officially Graduated from this Thread!! Go Forth and Conquer!!



No, SHE needs to be drinking just enough to make you look good. You need to stay sober so that Mr. Happy doesn't become Mr. Droopy after 11pm!! Trust me on THAT, haha!! You were BORN ready, you don't need any Social Lube!! Just don't let her get sloppy- that's the "Oh Noes!! I've Got an Alcoholic Girlfriend, What Do I Do?" Thread (quick answer- RUN!!). If she's not horny by the third drink, you've turned into a chaparone(?).

[Rinaldo]

It's nice that that happens to other people. They're just living their life and suddenly they just happen to meet someone who is single and they have a connection with them and decide to date. I'm just confused how this even happens because it's almost a rule that no girl is single, ever.

Yeah, they're just living their life and sometimes it simply takes a lot of living.

Dude, go to some anime conventions. Meet people. And if you find someone cute or sexy or hilarious or basically worth having a coffee with (a coffee! not a whole life of mutual fulfilment, save that for later), ask them out. You seem to have little real experience so how on earth can you possibly believe your assessment of women is worth anything? I fell madly in love with a girl I would NEVER expect to find very interesting. And boy, was she ever. Hell, my wife is someone I'd never imagine dating when I first got to know her, because she's from an entirely different cultural world than me. But now those differences fuel our marriage.

Sure, feel free to dream about the perfect girl, but don't let that stop you seeing women in real life. It's the only way you'll find out what you're really looking for.

[Ken B]

I am alive to how fortunate I am to get it right the first time . . . .

So did I ... Of course I got it wrong a few times in the middle (I am now with my first gf.)